Fears And Cheers...confused Feelings

[jacksmommy719 63]

So I just joined this Forum and I'm loving the informative real to life topics..But can anyone tell me if you've had pre surgery doubts and pre surgery excitement at the same time? Ever since my initial appointment a few weeks ago, I've been thinking about this surgery 24-7 and I don't even have a surgery date or approval from my insurance co!! My BMI is over 40. So, basically , I'm a shoe-in! I'm half way done with my required tests that are needed (bloodwork, sleep study, 5 year weight history). Still waiting on psych eval and ekg to get scheduled.

My dilema is, Half of the time I'm scared that something will go wrong during surgery and I will never get to see my kids again and the other half of the time I can't wait to get this over with so I can be healthy and thinner! Its insane this emotional thought process of a roller coaster.

I just want this to be done and over with so I can get on with my life. I don't want to be at the hands of an insurance co to decide whether or not they will pay for it. I don't want to be at the hands of a dr that can seriously screw up and F my life up. But I do want to be healthier, more confident and be here longer to spend with my children...I'm all over the place..someone, anyone, please tell me this is normal??

[kimmy*custis 276]

Oh yes, completely normal. I was scared, excited, nervous...you name it!! I an sooo happy I made this decision and dont regret it at all, you wont either! Best of luck for a speedy approval!

[SleeveDreamer 383]

I am a little over 7 months out. I was never scared nor had any doubts. I was so ready for this. I was only 60 lbs. overweight, but it was all in my abdomen heading for my heart. I just turned 62 and had to do something. Never had any complications, no Hair loss, no pain, or no nausea. I went from a size 18 jeans which werre tight to a size 6. I feel like a different person and am healthier than I probably have ever been. LUV MY SLEEVE!

[OakCliffMom 13]

My surgery is schedule for Aug. 7th, and I too have conflicting feelings about it. I have a long and very well documented history of anxiety over medical issues, so I even though I was excited at first, I expected the trepidation to crop up as my surgery date neared. Now that I am on the pre-op diet, and therefor, forced to think about it quite a bit, I am starting to panic. I know this road to a healthier lifestyle is the way to go, but the thought of having some horrible complication, or worse dying, as a result of elective surgery is starting to keep me up at night. How on earth would my children ever deal with that? I'm just going to try and keep my head down and push through it.

[jacksmommy719 63]

OakCliffMom - I hear you! I feel the same way..I don't want a decision that I make electively ruin my kids lives, however, on the flip side, given the heart disease that runs in my family, I'm not doing anyone any justice if I stay heavy. Its a terrible double edge sword...

[cr354 15]

Yeah I think it is pretty normal to feel a mixture of excitement over making positive life changes but yet at the same time feel nervous/apprehensive. My surgery is scheduled for August 13th so I am pretty nervous. But, I am also excited about being healthy. I think the mixture of two also helps people work through the risk versus reward. For me and most people I have talked to and read about the rewards far outway the risks. I say do your home homework, be as educated as possible, but do not let fear motivate your decisions.

Good Luck

CR

[jacksmommy719 63]

Thanks CR..I've been in this forum for less than an hour and I'm so happy I found it! You guys are awesome!

[Webtrekker 39]

I decided i wanted to get surgery a year ago. My Insurance had me take the options classes. After every class I decided I wasn't going to do it. then I would change my mind and be all for it. It was a roller coaster ride from hell, but I decided that living the way I was wasn't living and I needed to do this for me. I was still nervous when I was in the pre-op room. If you aren't nervous you should be it's major surgery. Just know everything will comeout right and you will be on the road to your new and exciting life.

[jacksmommy719 63]

Thanks Webtrekker!

[Sunnybyrd 5]

I am and have been where u r. I first thought about the surgery 3 years ago when I was having trouble controling my sugar. I had a brother who died at the age of 59 of a triple brainstem stroke. In 2003 he told me "any minute now!" That I would get diagnosed with diabetes and hi blood pressure. In 2008 I was diagnosed and his words echo in my mind.

I went to my first seminar in early January of 2012. Michigan Bariatric Clinic in St Mary Mercy Hospital in Livonia MI. I went through all the testing and psych evals and nutrition classes. Then I recieved a letter from my insurance that I had to go to a Blues preferred network, and St Mary Mercy is not. So, I received a list of where I coud go and I found Dr Krouse, from Beaumont Hospital Bariatric Center. I had to kind of start over with there program and they have a facililty just for bariatrics. Gym, pool, dieticians nutritionist and Dr's that you see on a regular on going basis. Also they sell the supplies needed for bariatric surgery. chewable vitamins especially for bariatric needs.

I have my date for surgery of Aug 2, 2012 and I am nervous and anxious and thoughts just like you. I am not a grandma yet and I worry if I die on the table. I take care of my Elderly father with dementia and 2 broken hips. I know this is the best decision for me as I am soon turning 58 and I want to live and be rid of my diabetes and other "weight issues.

So, yes, I guess all our fears r normal and we will be much healthier afterwords! I look forward to wearing a pair of normal jeans without the elastic waste! :-) I cant wait! please keep in touch. I am 1 week in waiting!

[Cresteds Mom 9]

I have also thought of surgery 24/7 since I had my informational meeting. I am both excited and anxious to get on with it. I have 6 months of doctor visits, just completed 3rd month. My doctor told me I was going to die if I didn't do something. So far I don't have high blood pressure or diabetes but doctor said it wasn't if I get them but when. Since I am 62 thought it was time I did something. That said I too have doubts when I read about complications and such but still think it is the best thing to do.

[Sannah 258]

Hello!

We are pretty much in the same place! Reading your post was like reading how I feel daily.

- I am in the process! Working on all the appointments!

-Worried about insurance. I have Premera Blue Cross Blue Shield.

- I have a BMI above 40.

- excited about health and being thinner.

-worried about seeing my daughter again. Will I die? Is this my time?

- what about complications!

- The stories of complications i read online weigh heavy in my mind.

- I am thinking about this 24-7

Sounds like we are both feeling many of the same things!

Thank you for sharing!

Sannah

[Brisbanealex 3]

So I just joined this Forum and I'm loving the informative real to life topics..But can anyone tell me if you've had pre surgery doubts and pre surgery excitement at the same time? Ever since my initial appointment a few weeks ago' date=' I've been thinking about this surgery 24-7 and I don't even have a surgery date or approval from my insurance co!! My BMI is over 40. So, basically , I'm a shoe-in! I'm half way done with my required tests that are needed (bloodwork, sleep study, 5 year weight history). Still waiting on psych eval and ekg to get scheduled.

My dilema is, Half of the time I'm scared that something will go wrong during surgery and I will never get to see my kids again and the other half of the time I can't wait to get this over with so I can be healthy and thinner! Its insane this emotional thought process of a roller coaster.

I just want this to be done and over with so I can get on with my life. I don't want to be at the hands of an insurance co to decide whether or not they will pay for it. I don't want to be at the hands of a dr that can seriously screw up and F my life up. But I do want to be healthier, more confident and be here longer to spend with my children...I'm all over the place..someone, anyone, please tell me this is normal?? <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/unsure.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

I am in for surgery on July 30th and feel te same. The good seems to far outweigh the bad.I am giving t a shot with some healthy concerns.

[jacksmommy719 63]

Another double edge sword! Lol! I'm glad that there are so many of you that feel like I do but yet disheartened that we all feel this way. So frustrating!

[Reyna Rascon Lugo 0]

Hi just .find this site I have the same fears I think about it 24/7 lots of questions looking for inf dont know if the sleeve is the best choice I m making fear of not waking up my surgery date is 8-20 will be starting Protein diet my bigest fear is not be able to eat normal again aI think is my love afair with food .I have diabetes n faty liver the surgery should help me . with my health problems but the fear is3 taking over my life my IBM is 40 my weigth is 220 this ia my second time I canceled RNY on 2009 a week before my surgery date n now having the same fears need some feed back. My docs tell me I need to loose at least 70 lbs exercise is not in my first choice have Ciatica flears n have a hard time walking to do basic house work bur this surgery is going to help with back problems but getting ready with some supplements from Jack.la lane meal.replacements n powder fruit n vegetables with protein coconut Water to keep hydrated good luck to all of you .