Feeling Ashamed....

[GoState 12]

I'm being sleeved Tuesday. What helped me to get over this same feeling is research. The fact is a lot of our weight problems is due to gut hormone levels, which we have ABSOLUTELY NO CONTROL OF!

There are studies where healthy lab rats were divided into 2 groups. Half the rats were given the Ghrelin hormone (produced in the fundus of the stomach) and the rest were not. EVERY rat that was given grehlin gained weight!

Ever wonder why some people can't gain weight? Almost every American makes very poor eating decisions daily. I know skinny people who do not exercise who can eat pizza, burgers, etc EVERY day of the week and not gain weight. Much of this has to do with metabolism, gut hormone levels and other things science has not yet uncovered. So many of our foods (healthy foods) are engineered by man. In many "low fat" foods, the fat has been replaced with carbs and other things. And portion sizes have skyrocketed over the past 50 yrs. Remember when all coke bottles were 10-12 oz's?

I understand the feeling. I have felt the same way. But the fact is everyone's body, mind, etc is different. My parasympathetic nervous system ( the body functions we can't control) tells my heart, lungs, liver, etc. what do. Our metabolisms and hormone levels are controlled this way. This does NOT mean you are a failure. Actually, it means you are intelligent enough to look at facts, realize where you need help, and seek that help to reach your goal.

Reaching out and getting the help you need actually sounds pretty smart to me!

Good Luck!!

[Butterthebean 8,146]

Here's an interesting hypothetical. What if they had a surgery to cure alcoholism, or nicotine addiction? What if that surgery was available to everyone? Would the general consensus be that alcoholics and cigarette smokers are weak for having the surgery instead of quitting on their own? Would those surgeries have such a stigma?

[Jesser 295]

Here's an interesting hypothetical. What if they had a surgery to cure alcoholism' date=' or nicotine addiction? What if that surgery was available to everyone? Would the general consensus be that alcoholics and cigarette smokers are weak for having the surgery instead of quitting on their own? Would those surgeries have such a stigma?[/quote']

That's right! Not all of us are alcoholics or drug addicts, just like not everyone is addicted to food or overrating. It's hard for someone to say "you're weak because you can't lose the weigh on your own" if they haven't experienced what it's like. I would never tell a drug addict or alcoholic that they are too weak to quit on their own because they went into rehab. It's the same thing in my opinion. food is a drug.

[Jesser 295]

Overeatting* lol stupid auto correct

[Ramona1019 5]

sadly 95% of people gain their weight back within 3 years of weight loss (with out weight loss surgery) I had the same thoughts as you! you will not feel ashamed when you look and feel great!

Thank you for this, i am preop and have been having the same emotional 'questions' . Feelings of shame .