Cant Stop Crying Any Help?

[ambershanee 1]

I got surgery 3/14/12 and I only lost 22lbs so far! It's been over four months and I'm sick behind this and going into a depression because I haven't lost hardly any weight. I changed my diet before surgery and I lost ten pounds before I even began the liquid diet i'm working out and my stomach hasnt budged nor has the weight barely looking at the success of others on here im on the verge of I dont know what! It's kiling me that the weight isnt moving. I was 246 now i'm 222

Any help or advice PLEASE

[O.T.R. sleever 3,386]

I am posting to let you know I to am interested in seeing your response and seeing if there is anything that I might be able to contribute.

[BenisaMartim4 369]

Bless your heart, I don't know what to say. Do you use myfitnesspal? It can really help you keep up with everything and see what is going on. I started out at 335, so I was much,much larger than you to begin with. Maybe it is because you are on the small end of the weight spectrum. Have you talked to your doc about it? If you are sticking to a diet (low-carb) and getting in some exercise, you may have something else going on here. I am so sorry. Please don't let yourself cry too much. Sinking into a great depression will only make it harder to lose. Please get with your NUT and have a serious sit down, preferably after logging every bite and step for a week (if you don't have MFP, GET IT!). He/she can help you figure out a plan to get you jump started or to see if you might be in need of some testing. Best wishes and my screen name on myfitnesspal is the same as here. You can send me a request if you want.

[lessofmeismore 1,405]

Lots of super great people here willing to help you! You've come to the right place! Don't give up!!!

((((Hugs))))

[Pookeyism 1,143]

Amber, are you keeping a log with absolutely everything you are (and are not) doing...make yourself aware of you slip ups? Because chances are you are getting in more calories than you think you are. No offense. Just that chances are that is it, and if so, you have the answers to your own problem.

I helped a young lady recently that found about 400 calories a day she wasn't counting - and that was in Creamer and iced tea and mismeasuring portions. It can be eye opening to keep a journal.

Please consider it if you are not...try myfitnespal.

Good luck.

[Forensikchic 528]

I am a lot further out but I stopped losing too. I went to my nut and she told me to keep my carbs under 30. Boy did that do the trick! I had fell back into eating a lot of high carb snacks.. not much at a sitting but still, they added up quick! I use my fitness pal but I had slacked off of that and I didnt realize that my calories were up around 1100 average and I wasnt getting enough Protein and around 100 grams of carbs! No wonder I wasnt losing. Most of us have a low metabolism so eating 1200 calories a day will NOT result in weight loss. We have to be lower than that especially the carbs... They need to be under 30 to break the stalls and get things moving again. Try that and let me know if it works for you too. I have lost 5 pounds in a week and a half and I am 94 pounds down! I only have 5 left to lose and it helped me. The last 10 pounds or so are a real pain to try to lose too so you can get where I am coming from. I bet if you lower your carbs and drink your fluids (no carbs or calories in drinks!) you will begin to drop the weight again. HTH. Tammi

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

Weight loss is definately slower when you are smaller, but I get that you are frustrated with these results.

So, do you work with a nutritionalist? I think that is super helpful.

People have already suggested that you journal EVERYTHING. I do think that is a wise thing to try. I find that sadly, I can't eat much to keep losing. Even a few hundred extra calories here or there stops losses. If I undereat I feel horrid and too low energy, so it is a balancing act.

I have had good steady losses, but this last month things kinda stalled. I refocused on Protein and Water, and sure enough, 5 pounds dropped. I would be happy to share more specifics/feedback if you share more details on your food and exercise. That is not to say that everybody is the same, but i have definately found some things that work better then others and can maybe spot something in your routine.

So, I don't mean to sound discouraging, but you are right in the zone when your fastest losses should be happening so you are smart to try to figure this out right now. My personal experience was that I had almost no hunger months 2-6 . Starting just after my 6 month surgery anniversary, I started noticing hunger again. I am still losing, but it is definately getting a bit more challenging a bit slower.

[notime 340]

Has you doctor ordered bloodwork? I had the same problem you do and it turned out to be a thyroid problem. I think you and the doctor should look at everything to determine the problem.

[barrbdoll 287]

How much food are you able to eat at one setting?? and how often are you eating. Maybe share what your normally eat so we can compare?? I was sleeved April 16th and I am lucky to get 3/4 a cup a food down at one time.

[giggles012980 12]

I was sleeved 3/12 and am down from 248 to 195, the key is getting in your protein! I've noticed my weight loss slowing down a bit, I don't tend to exercise as much as I should but I'm in a very fast passed work setting & on my feet 12hrs a day. I use my fitness pal & log all my food, weight, measurements as well. Are you losing inches???? My doc assures me there will be inches at times instead of pounds. I strongly suggest tracking everything you ingest, and keep the Protein up & carbs down!

[ambershanee 1]

1st Thanks everyone for your replies!

(History: I had a bad stay at the hospital, long story short, during my surgery my spleen was bruised causing me a great deal of pain, I complained of pain in the hospital and it fell on deaf ears, this was extremely tramatizing. After being discharged I went to another hospital through emergency and found out about my spleen. So this has damaged my relationship with my surgeon and I haven't been folowed by a specialist since that day. I have tried to find another surgery but this has been difficult I'm currently on a waiting list.)

I wanted to say that in the first three months I followed every rule to the "T" when it was possible. I say this because alot of days I had NO appetite and found a day or two going by and I hadn't ate anything. It's been really hard to get in the required amount of liquids but 99% of the time I drink Water only! On the days when I did eat, I ate only what I was suppose to eat. meaning mostly Protein my diet was more lean and green than anything .

What I ate: Lean ground turkey loaf with onions and green peppers, some sort of green veggie, if I used fat to cook it was a dash of olive oil never any breads no red meat or pork either baked or grilled chicken or turkey, no starch! Breakfast a egg and lean turkey sausage, very simple thinks low sugar fruits cantalope, honey dew. lots of fresh string Beans. On this diet I lost an average of 1 pound a week . three weeks after surgery I lost 11 pounds that was 4/2/12 since then I've been averaging about 1pound a week total weight lost is 22 pounds.

Last month I have been off schedule feeling depressed and helpless I said F- this and I have ate a few lunchmeat sandwhiches had some choocolate, a few chips here and ther but honestly I can't even eat a a orange without feeling full so I figure even on my binge I hardly ate much due to my reduced stomach uhgggg!!!

Oh another thing, I dont have any of those food trackers or fitness trackers mentioned in the or any online tools i'm just learning of these things.

I hope this helps other when giving me advice with my issue.

I never been a soda or juice girl or at least i havent been one in the last 10 years due to diabetes. I don't drink coffee or tea, I dont smoke nor drink alcohols. I only drink Crystal Light beverages outside of Water. Please let me know if I left out any thing that would help you all to help me!

[mdefabio 73]

Hi my name is Maria. I have read that the gastric sleeve can be done in two parts if you don't lose enough weight with just the first of surgery. You should talk to your surgeon because I'm pretty sure they can do a gastric bypass now to help you.

[BenisaMartim4 369]

Hi my name is Maria. I have read that the gastric sleeve can be done in two parts if you don't lose enough weight with just the first of surgery. You should talk to your surgeon because I'm pretty sure they can do a gastric bypass now to help you.

They will only do this after two years of unsuccessful weight-loss and it is a last resort option. Everything else has to be ruled out before the insurance companies will pay.

[O.T.R. sleever 3,386]

Hi my name is Maria. I have read that the gastric sleeve can be done in two parts if you don't lose enough weight with just the first of surgery. You should talk to your surgeon because I'm pretty sure they can do a gastric bypass now to help you.

I believe what you are referring to here is converting the sleeve to DS or RNY. Though both of these are possible I don't believe we are anywhere near the point of taking that extreme of measures.

I'm really thinking the best course of action here is to hit the reset button, start with the pouch test and then progress through the phases some renewed dedication is in order here.

[sassypants 674]

The crying part I get all these hormones flooding my body to start with was beyond crazy!

I was laughing at something and it turned to crying actual sobbing for no reason I just switched to deeply sad sobbing 10mins later fine!

Its crazy the ups and downs that you go through at first and I am still in that stage just less extremes of the downs and tears.

Again I personally don’t track weight they told me not to anyway but its never been my thing, besides home scales don’t go up high enough for my weight to do that anyway!

On the 30th of the month I take measurements and pictures for my own update.

The last time I was weighed was like the 17th of june at the doctors and I have no clue to date what my weight is.

I am not working out yet I have a knee problem and back problem can’t take anything for it yet so I was told to just walk around my house as much as I can and lift weights, I have 2.5kg hand weights I do everyday for my arms.

It doesn’t say where your located but if your in the uk you should have had them call you about your free gym membership by now, I got my call today that I am ok to start working out and can book my assessment at the gym any time.

I am really very new to this and having a lot of issues with trying to eat and even drink right now so I am no help on the food intake sorry.

I think it’s the best thing ever said to be by my nurse which is do not compare yourself to anyone else during this because you are a individual and what works them may not work for you.

It is hard with the emotions and the expectations from ourselves and the people around us who know it sometimes feels like everything is smothering us and you want to scream!

It is a big deal so its ok to have high or charged emotions about it.

Hope you work it out hun and feel better soon!