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So, I had a huge crush on my friend in college, but I always thought I was too fat for him (I was 5'6" and about 185 lbs at the time). I've just learned that he married one of our classmates who was at least 300 lbs the whole time I knew her and still is now. They have two kids.

I let my body image hold me back when clearly I shouldn't have.

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Awww I know what you mean. I'm 5'10' and even at 150 lbs which made me skinny, I still felt like I was 300 lbs and it DID hold me back. Wish I new then what I know now. :rolleyes:

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Unfortunately, society screams at us everyday that thin is in and fat is not where it's at. It's sad that we become conditioned that we're not good enough. Just remember, you ARE special and you DO matter and people who matter see that... no matter what your wieght registers.

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Awww I know what you mean. I'm 5'10' and even at 150 lbs which made me skinny, I still felt like I was 300 lbs and it DID hold me back. Wish I new then what I know now. :huggie:

Story of my life.

That is exactly what I went through, NJChick.

WHY didn't I take advantage then? I was too busy worrying about how I looked to ENJOY the benefits of how I looked. :scared:

I won't make that mistake again.:rolleyes:

If I get the body I hope for, then I promise to only use it for evil, never for good. :)

Just watch me... LOL :paranoid

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I watched my mother wait her whole life, it was one long "we'll go do X when I've lost Y pounds." I decided that I would never let my size or weight stop me from doing anything.

The only time I let it stop me if if I phsycally can not do something because I dont' fit the saftey requirements.

courage and strength!

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I watched my mother wait her whole life, it was one long "we'll go do X when I've lost Y pounds." I decided that I would never let my size or weight stop me from doing anything.

Mine too, Vines. Thats one of the biggest reason I chose to have WLS!!!

Gonnadoit,

We've all had so many weight related rejections that our sheild of self-protection is on high alert.

Finding one guy out of 200 that gives an overweight girl a second look is a rare find.

Don't beat yourself up over it... Main thing is that it wasnt meant to be!

Maybe this situation occured to give you more self-confidence to approace Mr. Right? ;)

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