Most Humiliating Fat Moment

[Kalimomof3 613]

My most humiliating moment. Keep in mind that I am easy Indian but born in Canada. I love my culture and all but Indian people upon people with weight issues and have no issue talking about it. So here goes:

I was at an Indian clothing store helping my boyfriend pick out an outfit for an up coming wedding. When the lady at the store asked him what size he was and he told her' date=' she brought out that size. However, that outfit was too tight on him. He hadn't gained any weight, I'm sure they just had the wrong size on the label. He made a sweet comment to the sales lady "I guess I may have packed on a few pounds..my gf is such a great cook". The sales lady answered "well she must be trying to get you to look like her so she won't look so fat standing next to you like she does now". I was speechless. My boyfriend saw the look on my face and said lets go. We were planning on going shopping and then going out to my fave restaurant to have dinner but who wants to eat after hearin a comment like that?

The whole drive home I wiped my years silently. He knew I was so upset and tried to convince me to go home, freshen up and go out with him. Instead I went home, layed in my bed and cried myself to sleep while he held me. So embarrassing.[/quote']

I am half Asian and our people are this blunt about weight issues as well...My mother is 1/2 Filipino and 1/2 Chinese. She has said to me on numerous occasions " you are so pretty but you need to lose weight". She has said " Your husband won't love you if you gain anymore weight" She gave backhanded compliments like "You are the pretty one but your sister looks better than you right now because she is skinny" She also gives me diet tips though she herself eats like a horse. Those are just things I experienced with my own mother....

The thing that embarassed me most in public was in Junior Highschool. I was chubby and I had very large breasts I was 12 and was already a D there was this boy named Leonard who would harass me at school. Leonard gave me a nickname it was Big Momma Breastasuz and he would yell really loud in front of everyone every time he would see me. He would follow behind me when I walked home and yell it. One time he saw me at the Mall and was way down by the food court and I was down the hall and he yelled "Hey Big Momma "I finally just found ways to avoid him at all costs.That was almost 20 years ago and to this day I would not waste my spit on Leonnard even if he was on fire .

[Cresteds Mom 9]

FatinIowa where are you having surgery? I'm in Iowa also. Dr. Eibbes is my surgeon.

[smb 75]

Try reading it with the voice of extreme sarcasm.

Yes, exactly. Thank you.

[NDN_RN 527]

I always wondered how I would handle having a special needs kid. My cousin's boy is autistic and I'm not sure I could step up like she did/does. She's amazing.

My daughter is adopted, she is high functioning, but has OCD, anxiety disorder, and reactive attachment disorder. Everyday is a challenge, everyday a little more detached from reality. But it is the path set before me, and with love and patience and all the help I can get, we go forward. She also has a weight issue at 10. I hope that, once I start losing weight, I can be a model for healthy eating. Unfortunately her medications have a big impact on her weight.

[Wolfgirl1978 256]

My daughter is adopted' date=' she is high functioning, but has OCD, anxiety disorder, and reactive attachment disorder. Everyday is a challenge, everyday a little more detached from reality. But it is the path set before me, and with love and patience and all the help I can get, we go forward. She also has a weight issue at 10. I hope that, once I start losing weight, I can be a model for healthy eating. Unfortunately her medications have a big impact on her weight.[/quote']

My step daughter, 16, is high functioning autistic also. She also has a weight issue. I'm new to all this, as I was just married 10 months ago to their father, and sometimes I get frustrated.

[BrickHouse 358]

I was 8 years old and 130 pounds. My family went to a local "drive-thru zoo" where there were all kinds of animals. At the end of the attraction there was an area where you could get out of your cars and interact with some of the animals. There was a little sort of "merry-go-round" with pygmy ponies in harnesses which were attached to a wheel and they would walk around in circles with kids on their backs. Now, I had no business trying to get on one of those poor little ponies. But I was 8 and I loved animals (still do), so I did. Well, as you can imagine, the pony couldn't walk with me on its back. It just stood there when the harness wheel started moving. They made me get off and I cried all the way home. I can still feel how that felt and it was 40 years ago.

[NDN_RN 527]

My step daughter' date=' 16, is high functioning autistic also. She also has a weight issue. I'm new to all this, as I was just married 10 months ago to their father, and sometimes I get frustrated.[/quote']

In box me if you want to talk

[dar1983 751]

You put this so beautifully. I don't understand why it is ok to demean overweight people.

I have had someone in the grocery store congratulate me on my pregnancy, and when I told her I wasn't pregnant she went ahead to point out all the items in my cart that were making me fat.

I am a nurse, and there used to be an extremely obese nurse on the floor, probably close to 400 pounds. One day I was walking in the hallway and some family members pointed at me and said the nurse that took care of their father was even fatter than me. I kept on walking, but couldn't believe someone would say that stuff out loud.

AMAZING...absolutely amazing...

[peacequeen 434]

Did I read this right? And for the record, i have a mentally ill autistic child, no parades, just a lot of suffering. Who are you?

I have an autistic child as well. I don't think the poster meant it that way.

[peacequeen 434]

My daughter is adopted, she is high functioning, but has OCD, anxiety disorder, and reactive attachment disorder. Everyday is a challenge, everyday a little more detached from reality. But it is the path set before me, and with love and patience and all the help I can get, we go forward. She also has a weight issue at 10. I hope that, once I start losing weight, I can be a model for healthy eating. Unfortunately her medications have a big impact on her weight.

I don't mean to stalk your posts but my son has pervasive developmental disorder, adhd, anxiety and ocd. Maybe we could chat about the kiddos sometime

[susanfaye 162]

My daughter has a chromosome deletion called Ring 21. She is one of about 65 known cases in the world. We don't know what DNA was dleted, so we don't know what to expect. We just take it as it comes. She was a major motivating factor in deciding to have surgery. What happens if I can't care for her? She is such a sweet girl and I am proud she calls me Mommy!

[NDN_RN 527]

I don't mean to stalk your posts but my son has pervasive developmental disorder' date=' adhd, anxiety and ocd. Maybe we could chat about the kiddos sometime [/quote']

Would be grateful to find other "special moms" who are or have been sleeved. If ear most is the fact that I spend so much time at therapists, psychiatrist, partial hospitalization programs, IEPs, that I will have a hard time keeping up with my post op nutritional needs.

[smb 75]

I have an autistic child as well. I don't think the poster meant it that way.

No. What I meant is that autistic children were once sent away to a home and now they are celebrated for being unique and special, there is awareness now. They are readily employed. They are more accepted.

Fat people are not accepted any more than they were 30 years ago. Sure there more clothing options, but that's only because someone can make money selling it.

[susanfaye 162]

Would be grateful to find other "special moms" who are or have been sleeved. If ear most is the fact that I spend so much time at therapists' date=' psychiatrist, partial hospitalization programs, IEPs, that I will have a hard time keeping up with my post op nutritional needs.[/quote']

I think learning to carry a small ice chest with you wherever you go with whatever special foods you need in it has been helpful to me with my daughter.

[shell12 18]

Would be grateful to find other "special moms" who are or have been sleeved. If ear most is the fact that I spend so much time at therapists' date=' psychiatrist, partial hospitalization programs, IEPs, that I will have a hard time keeping up with my post op nutritional needs.[/quote']

I too have a special needs son, he is 6 and severely physically and developmentally delayed. The hardest thing for me post op is not being able to pick him up