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Sometimes if a woman feels insecure she distances herself emotionally bc if u were to leave her it won't hurt as much. This is one way people (men and women) self-sabotage relationships. "well he's gonna leave me anyway so it may as well be on my terms"

What she needs is to be reassured Ur in this together. Regardless of weight loss or gain.

You need to make up your mind whether you truly want to be together or whether this honeymoon phase with your weight loss is going to turn Ur head at other girls that pay you more attention.

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Maybe you should stop thinking of this as an unwanted pregnancy and start thinking of your unborn child. This is a baby you are going to raise and hopefully this child will be a part of your life, for the rest of your life.

Perhaps you should take everyone's advice and get some counseling to help you accept the fact that you are going to be a father, and couple's counseling to teach you and your wife communication skills.

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It is difficult to talk to a pregnant woman..if you haven't had a baby, you can't possibly relate to the insecurities, emotional roller coasters, and fierce need to protect your baby along with not wanting to be touched sexually or even wanting to be touched all the time....they are crazy ..I was one of them.. My suggestion would be get into couple's counseling because obviously talking to her on your own isn't working. To have the counselor there to diffuse any situation in a calm manner would be beneficial to you and your wife so that important decisions that will potentially effect the rest of your life can be on the table. Even if you got divorced, you have a child coming that you will be responsible for the next 18 years, so that is something to take into consideration..good luck!

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We had both agreed on not having a child till we owned our own home...but someone didn't take her pill for over a week. .

I am not trying to offend you, but remember the only birth control that is 100% effective is abstinence.

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