female only The Sleeve & Martiage.

[Tameka 42]

My husband is so supportive. He has been more positive than I am many days. I'm only 3 weeks. I'll be 4 on Wednesday. I don't think I would be doing as good without the support from my husband.

Meka

[CdnExpat 49]

My husband has also been incredibly supportive, and his idea about writing down all the rules I have about food and planning to break them was the best advice I got from anyone. It's been liberating to tick off the rules as I break them.

CE

[Racheepoo99 33]

My husband suggested the sleeve to me after he saw a guy at his work become very thin with it. At first I was very hurt. After researching it I really wanted to do it for myself. My hubby is in tip top shape. I never was. Now I am 4 months out lost 56 lbs and doing great. Feeling better. Much more confidence. He is very happy with my new looks. All over me all the time. Very supportive. Before he suggested the surgery our marriage was getting rocky he was telling me I need to lose weight. Now we r more solid than ever. I saw some pics of me from before the surg and can't believe how big I was. I was in complete denial about my weight. I feel like this surg saved my life and saved my marriage. All my life I have been fat and all I have ever wanted is to be skinny. Now I am slowly getting there. I am just so happy. I like eating less. I just couldn't do it on my own. This surg has been so wonderful for me.

[Jouselle 45]

My hubby and I were both chubby when we met, and both sadly became chubbier over time. Now we're both in the boiling pot of morbidly obese. So, together, we're both getting the surgery. They're even letting us do it on the same day.

I can't read the future, but we are doing this together.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

My opinion is that it depends largely on the state of your relationship BEFORE you lose weight. My EX sig other and i lived like roommates for several years before I lost weight. I hoped that my losing weight and becoming attractive would change things. All it changed was that I was unwilling to keep living that way. He had zero interest in my changing looks or successes. I had lost 125 pounds when one day i asked him if he noticed i looked different... that is the level of indifference i am talking about here.

There is alot more going on, but bottom line, we are officially split, have been for awhile now but are still living like roommates. He is moving out next year, delay due to financial and other reasons. He is a good man, but apparently our relationship has been dead for awhile, I was just the last to know.

I don't really blame this on me losing weight. I have woken up and smelled the coffee is all.. and it took weight loss to do that.

[Angiepic 83]

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[indecision 863]

Let me preface what I'm going to say with this:

1) I've been married for 1 year and 7 months.

2) I was 280 when I met my husband, 347.5 was my highest weight (in January), and I've lost 135.5 lbs as of today (212 lbs).

I think my husband married me because his ex cheated on him and I honestly feel that he didn't think I would leave him because I was heavy. Our sex life is very boring and I became disinterested a long time before my surgery.

He didn't want me to have it, because of the financial aspect. We never really talked about any other reasons why he didn't want me to have it.

Instead of supporting me in my loss, he had decided to compete and show me that he can lose weight without surgery. He's lost about 40-50 lbs. He doesn't compliment me ever, is indifferent to any new clothes I get (but cares how much they cost), never tells me anything positive. I feel like I'm living with a roommate, not a husband. I cannot tell you the last time he genuinely told me he loves me.

This surgery has opened my eyes. I have a lot more self-esteem now and people tell me how amazing of a transformation I've made...all people outside of my home! Men look...it has made me realize that I am not happy and haven't been for a very long time.

I have decided I am leaving my husband, I just haven't decided when to do it (after the holidays, etc.). It will shock him I'm sure, but it's what I have to do (we don't have any children). I feel guilt because I don't want to hurt him but I have to live for me for a while. Am I selfish? Probably. Am I a statistic? Probably. But you all need to know not everybody is supportive in this journey and it's okay to make changes.

Wow sorry you are going through that. And sorry he doesn't get it. It is good that you are doing what is best for you though because the worst thing you can do is keep living this way and not be happy! Good luck to you!

[AKMama 36]

Let me preface what I'm going to say with this:

1) I've been married for 1 year and 7 months.

2) I was 280 when I met my husband, 347.5 was my highest weight (in January), and I've lost 135.5 lbs as of today (212 lbs).

I think my husband married me because his ex cheated on him and I honestly feel that he didn't think I would leave him because I was heavy. Our sex life is very boring and I became disinterested a long time before my surgery.

He didn't want me to have it, because of the financial aspect. We never really talked about any other reasons why he didn't want me to have it.

Instead of supporting me in my loss, he had decided to compete and show me that he can lose weight without surgery. He's lost about 40-50 lbs. He doesn't compliment me ever, is indifferent to any new clothes I get (but cares how much they cost), never tells me anything positive. I feel like I'm living with a roommate, not a husband. I cannot tell you the last time he genuinely told me he loves me.

This surgery has opened my eyes. I have a lot more self-esteem now and people tell me how amazing of a transformation I've made...all people outside of my home! Men look...it has made me realize that I am not happy and haven't been for a very long time.

I have decided I am leaving my husband, I just haven't decided when to do it (after the holidays, etc.). It will shock him I'm sure, but it's what I have to do (we don't have any children). I feel guilt because I don't want to hurt him but I have to live for me for a while. Am I selfish? Probably. Am I a statistic? Probably. But you all need to know not everybody is supportive in this journey and it's okay to make changes.

I completely understand how you feel. I am fighting some of the same issues you spoke of but I have been married for 15 years. Still not sure what I am going to do with my life.

[Indigo1991 1,612]

Being overweight physically covers our bodies with fat, hiding our natural shape. It also hides us emotionally and mentally, not only from others but ourselves too.

So when we lose weight, as well as revealing new bodies, we uncover ourselves again. That's what's happening to you.

I may appear to have changed with my weight loss, but I am now just who I was inside all along. The fat barrier kept me from really being me but no more!

Life is too short to live a lie or to live only for others. Making changes will be hard but nothing worth having comes easy.

Good luck, this too will pass and life will be as it should be for you :-)

Edited October 23, 2013 by Indigo1991

[Sweet Pee 349]

Although we may not think we change with our weigh loss, we really do. Our husbands can see it. Our change is for the better, and sometimes it just take our husbands a little while to come up to speed and appreciated out new bodies and the positive changes we have made for ourselves.

[TanyaB 25]

My hubby is actually worried about me losing too much because he loves my big soft booty and belly. He is very supportive though and just wants me to be happy.