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I am slipping and I not feeling that great. I am in the Raleigh, NC area. My child is out of town for 3 weeks and literally no one to talk to about this problems. My blood pressure is through the roof right now and I don't understand wny. Is anyone out there? You don't even have to be close. I feel like I am doing something wrong.

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Hi there, well I'm in California... but I'm always willing to lend an ear if you need it. :)

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Hi there, well I'm in California... but I'm always willing to lend an ear if you need it. :)

Thank you

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We are always here... It maybe hard because your child is not here right now. However I challah he you to take this opportunity to do something's for yourself. Go for long walks, go get a manicure, go for a swim, go read a book at beach, ride a bike, or take this as an opportunity to catch up with your friends. Embrace your independance. Life is good, and we are blessed to have our sleeves.

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Sorry...stupid iPhone. I mean I challenge you.

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I'm out here in UT, and I haven't been sleeved yet- I am here! Have you checked with your doc? I have no blood pressure (go figure), but my husband who is relatively thin has really high blood pressure (go figure again). If he goes off his meds, he feels horrible.

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We are always here... It maybe hard because your child is not here right now. However I challah he you to take this opportunity to do something's for yourself. Go for long walks, go get a manicure, go for a swim, go read a book at beach, ride a bike, or take this as an opportunity to catch up with your friends. Embrace your independance. Life is good, and we are blessed to have our sleeves.

Thanks, I will try to do some of those things. Money is pretty tight since the surgery but I will maybe go take in a cheap movie or something.

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I recommend a book by Cynthia Alexander, The Emotional First + Aid Kit : A practical guide to Life after Bariatric Surgery.

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Thanks, I will try to do some of those things. Money is pretty tight since the surgery but I will maybe go take in a cheap movie or something.

I'll tell you what, the cheapest therapy for me is plugging in my MP3 player with all my favorite inspirational songs - with fast beats. I turn that on, go outside and enjoy the sunshine and get lost in my own little world and thoughts. I work out so many issues this way.

Not only that, walking is the best workout anyone can do. Walk as fast as you can, with endurance and push and stay hydrated. You will find this helps a lot with the scale.

It's ok to be sad sometimes, to miss people. It's ok to to struggle. It's OK TO realize we are human. All of these things, fighting through it and working them out make us stronger every single day.

Keep fighting.

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Thanks everyone for the encouraging words. I'm at work now so maybe I will pop on my music for a bit

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I recommend a book by Cynthia Alexander, The Emotional First + Aid Kit : A practical guide to Life after Bariatric Surgery.

Yup!

get out too - Raleigh? You are in the middle of some most awesome things!

Take a day trip up to the hot springs or go to a museum...

You know, it's OK to freak out right now. Give yourself permission to feel your feelings, but also give yourself permission to let them go...

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Thanks everyone for the encouraging words. I'm at work now so maybe I will pop on my music for a bit

Remember to breathe :)

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