Sleeved And Single

[allmyjoy 21]

Ok, so i lost my boyfriend May 2011 to cancer, ( i have my own guardian angel). Yes it made me a stronger person in some ways. During the 8 months of his sickness i became very obese instead of just obese. We talked of me having the surgery when he was better. Well he is all better, on a cloud watching over me. I will be 5 weeks post op tomorrow the 14th. I really would like to start going out and about more often, not have a "boyfriend" so to speak, but maybe date, go out with friends. So the typical date is dinner or drinks with friends. Not everyone, hardly anyone knows of my surgery. How do you handle this when you can't drink and only eat a few bites. I don't wanna come across as shy and not wanting to eat, i am nervous and shy enough. Am i over thinking this?

[favoredone 590]

Just start maybe going to a karaoke show or comedy club or something where the focus isn't eating and drinking... Heck, you can nurse a cranberry juice all night!!

And then, when people get caught up in conversation and stuff, they don't pay attention to things like that.. If we are anxious about it... it brings attention to it...

Some kind of activity like bowling, skating, a carnival or something would be great as well.. Getting excercise, entertainment and enjoyment!!

Best wishes and congrats on being sleeved!!

[Kelligirl 3]

I'm 7 weeks post op and I have been going out with friends and they don't know about my WLS. I have been able to have a glass of wine, and I order a smaller plate or Soup and enjoy the conversation. I eat really slow and know one has said anything. Do a test run by yourself and see how you do. Good luck!

[Chuckles 28]

I think you are overthinking it, most people are so busy eating their own meal they probably won't notice at all, and if they ask why you are not eating you can tell them that their conversation and company is so interesting you would rather enjoy them now and take the food home to eat later