How To Have A "good" Food Funeral - Guilt-Free!

[Patrick Curl 424]

I did not have any "food funerals" before my surgery... I started my "pre-op" diet about 4 months before my surgery, so my desire for the bad foods was very low. My pre-op diet was simply very, very, very low carb.

Post surgery I won't deny myself anything. I rarely "crave" anything, so it isn't a big deal when I do, if I have a coffee frappuccino from starbucks (with added protein! did you know they can do that?). I'll take the cal/carbs hits. Or if i'm with my family and they are having ice cream... give me some too! The difference? i'm satisfied after an actual serving size and I don't feel the "omg I have to more now" feeling that I used to get. I can walk away from it now.

For the most part, I'm really, really good about my diet. But I felt that if I always deny myself or even "wait till maintenance" that I would end up sabotaging myself. My surgeon's partner likes to compare us to drug addicts (he includes himself in this analogy, I hate it, which is why I didn't chose him lol). He says carbs are our drug so we have to stay away from them completely. I would agree, IF it was possible. We actually need food to live, so instead of denying something 100%, I find it better to limit it. That way the urge doesn't become overwhelming. At least for now, it seems to be working for me.

Great insites Emily.. definitely sounds like the life I want to live - first I got to get there, and I want to work as hard as I possibly can personally to speed up everything cause I'm impatient which means working extra hard at the gym, and not eating any of my fave food or very little of it anyways.

I have a LOT to lose I want to lose at least 200 pounds in the next year.. 300 would be better but seems a little daunting - I think it could be done if I really push at the gym. Once I lose the weight the sleeve will help me keep it off while I enjoy all my faves. Frankly I'd be ok with weighing 300 pounds again. At 650 that would be a huge improvement.

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,282]

I am not for nor against anyone having a food funeral. Just that everyone should always do what they think is right for them. I had a food funeral before my Lap Band but I didn't have one before revising to my sleeve.

I guess the difference in those two pre-ops was realizing I'd be able to have those things again someday, so adding on weight pre-op wasn't worth it to me.

I like the list though, its really good. And I agree with Patrick 100% in regards to soda. I do have a few sips here and there, but rarely do I crave it. It has zero nutritional value and one thing most people seem to neglect realizing is that soda can have a negative effect on our hydration.

Well wishes to all!!

[Dooter 1,457]

It's a good motivational post for those having pre op food issues! thanks for posting, and I pray you have grand success and reach all your goals!

[CraftyV 61]

I went to a buffet for my food funeral but I did not enjoy it. I felt gross after. I am doing this through Kaiser and they do not require any type of special diet, they just want you to eat a balance diet. I lost a lot of weight when I stop eating out and now when I do eat out, it makes me sick. I think I have detoxed!!

[JenniJune 79]

I went to a buffet for my food funeral but I did not enjoy it. I felt gross after. I am doing this through Kaiser and they do not require any type of special diet, they just want you to eat a balance diet. I lost a lot of weight when I stop eating out and now when I do eat out, it makes me sick. I think I have detoxed!!

Sounds like it to me!

[GivingItMyAll 168]

I am pre-op and thought I would have a food funeral. I even planned the place and the meal. However, since I've started working out, none of those foods seem worth it to me. I work out 5-6 days a week for an hour or more. And when I leave the gym I feel pumped! I just don't want to "mess up" all that hard work with certain foods. I am 11 days away from starting my pre-op diet and I doubt I'll do anything different than I'm doing now with regards to tracking food and making better choices. No disrespect to anyone who chooses to have a food funeral, just not for me.

[iegal 460]

Aw, a food funeral. food is not DEAD after surgery. Food will become a part of your life again. What changes is the quantity only. Surgeons only do physical limiting surgery, not brain surgery. I can eat everything I throw down to my gullut once again. Nothing bothers me. Oh, I am a little more sensitive to spicy (really spicy) foods but all else sits in there just fine.

What you need to mourn is your relationship with food. Deal with the fact that food will no longer be your first go to friend when you are celebrating an occasion, bored, lonely, sad, just watching TV, socializing and so on. You need to learn to occupy yourself somewhere else and focus on other things around you rather than eating as much as you want. Choices. Focus on protien.

Lest you follow me and have a cry fest in front of a buffet knowing I will never be able to gorge again and eat everything I like, twice. Okay, three times.

I love my sleeve and have no regrets.

[CraftyV 61]

Aw' date=' a food funeral. food is not DEAD after surgery. Food will become a part of your life again. What changes is the quantity only. Surgeons only do physical limiting surgery, not brain surgery. I can eat everything I throw down to my gullut once again. Nothing bothers me. Oh, I am a little more sensitive to spicy (really spicy) foods but all else sits in there just fine.

What you need to mourn is your relationship with food. Deal with the fact that food will no longer be your first go to friend when you are celebrating an occasion, bored, lonely, sad, just watching TV, socializing and so on. You need to learn to occupy yourself somewhere else and focus on other things around you rather than eating as much as you want. Choices. Focus on protien.

Lest you follow me and have a cry fest in front of a buffet knowing I will never be able to gorge again and eat everything I like, twice. Okay, three times.

I love my sleeve and have no regrets.[/quote']

Wow iegal love your thoughts on this subject.