".... But You're Not That Big"

[cacilluf 27]

Ok, so I go to my surgeon's support group and last night someone said something that struck me emotionally. A lady was talking about how she wants the sleeve and her husband, who was with her, was against it. After she was done talking another lady, who also didn't have the sleeve yet, said ".... but you're not that big".

Seriously???? We're at a sleeve support group and you bring that out??? Yes, the lady who said that was larger than the one with the unsupportive husband, and I think that maybe this lady was just trying to make the other feel better (compliment??), but I got so emotional and had to call the lady out on what she said.

I was told alot by friends and family that they didn't think I was big enough. I'm sure they thought of it as a compliment but really it hurt because I could never talk to them about the sleeve beyond their accusation of my size. I was 290 before I got sleeved and had tried and tried and tried and wanted to be able to diet and exercise SO BAD but I couldn't do it mentally. I came to the conclusion to do it for ME because I KNEW I needed a tool to help me, and asking for help is NOT a sign of weakness. Its a very personal decision that everyone makes to have it, and to hear someone say "you're not that big" now not only hurts but pisses me off.

So I guess what I'm saying is for people who may not be 350+ or who wear it well, don't listen to the ignorance when people try to tell you you don't need the surgery when you know in your heart that it is the right decision for you.

[gmanbat 5,889]

I heard "you're not that big" from a lot of people, even nurses. I am tall and the death-dealing globules were spread out and hid under clothing as long as it was loose. Of course, I didn't have the time or inclination to school them on what price I was paying for my "not that big" body. You know the list: tiredness, heavy breathing (not related to romance ), knee pain, insomnia, apnea, high blood pressure, diabetes, etc. etc.

People watch TV shows where 660 pound people are laying in hospital rooms and think that is the definition of too big. We know what fat is. We know how to dump it for good.