Cold Cold Cold Feet

[ShouldBlittler 89]

My husband has his surgery today. After many delays, he was finally taken back to surgery. The surgeon found some things that he wasn't expecting. Like apparently the hernia was bigger than they thought, and there was a lot to clean up from my husband's gall bladder surgery last year.

Now he's through it, and after a very long surgery, he was just moved to his room.

My surgery is slated for June 20. Now I am finding myself nervous. I saw other posts in the past of people who got nervous in the weeks before their surgeries, and I never thought that it would be me. But now I'm nervous, very nervous. Like, nervous about the permanency of the surgery. Considering calling it off nervous.... Does anyone have a hopeful story to share? Thanks in advance.

[MKambalimath 92]

Hi SB...I was originally scheduled to have my sleeve on January 24th. My sister who lives on the West Coast had hers on Jan 20th so we were pretty excited that we were doing it at the same time. As the time got closer and closer, I was freaking out. I couldnt sleep at night and I was so angry, thinking that I was going to have to eat the rest of my life like the post op liquid diet. I was SOOOO hungry. My husband and I went shopping one night and he looked at me and said, you really look like you've lost weight. I had lost about 10lbs on the pre op diet. That was like the straw that broke the camels back. We went out to dinner and I had a steak, loaded baked potato, salad and Pepsi and decided that since I had lost weight without surgery, then I could continue. Umm hmm. Needless to say, by March, I had gained 8 of the 10lbs back. My sister had lost 60lbs by the time I finally had my surgery on April 25th. My surgery went very smoothly, I vomited once when I came out of the anesthesia, and I was VERY sore. For me it felt like Chuck Norris went to town inside me. Getting up and sitting down were the worst, but I was released the next evening which was a Thu and Sat I went to Walmart grocery shopping. That was a little too much for me, lol, I had to go wait in the car for my husband to finish, but my recovery was pretty good. Now I'm 6 weeks out and have lost 30lbs, and I actually feel really good. The worst thing I could have done was cancel my surgery like I did. I wish with all my heart that I would have gotten it done in January. Imagine how far along I would be now. I'm in a good place now though and am so happy that I went through with it. PS, my sisters down 76lbs now

[5DoxieMom 87]

I think your nervous feeling is normal, there have been many postings by people who have felt like canceling surgery. I was so nervous, my blood pressure was through the roof. Having your husband's surgery so close to yours can either make you feel better or worse, depending on how his recovery goes. But having everything so fresh in your mind, might make it harder at first. But the great thing is that in the long run, you guys will be doing this together, and that is great. I think going into this as a team, really can add to your success. For me, the first month was really hard, but at 3 months out, I don't regret it a bit. I wish you guys all the best!

[iegal 460]

Most of us remember that moment thinking "what am I doing?" while a few of us can same I never doubted my choice.

If you do not have a hernia or if you have not had gallbladder surgery, you can take both of these out of your area of concerns. Take this for your position alone. You and your spouse will not always travel the same path on this journey of VSG. Do this for you and accept your experience may be different...for the better.

Best wishes. I have no regrets and love my sleeve.

[Dooter 1,457]

OH gravy, I was so nervous, I was obsessing about the whole thing. I LIVED on this website looking for...I don't know what....to ease my mind. I was sure I would die or have a leak or have to spend the next 3 months in the hospital, knowing that I have a family to take care of... I thought of ALL the worst things I could. I just had to focus on the fact that my surgeon has an outstanding success rate (very low complication rate) and that God is in control, and if that's the way He wanted to take me out, there's not much I could've done about it! I don't know if that is a comfort to you, or not, but ....that's what did it for me.

I love the permanence of this surgery. I know that I don't have to worry about bands slipping or something weird happening. No stretching like a bypass (minimal risk, anyway). I have new self-control thanks to the sleeve. Just watch your hubby go go go, and you will be excited to get on your way too!

[GivingItMyAll 168]

Glad to hear that your dh made it safely to the losers bench. From what I've read on this site nerves are very normal. So put some socks on those cold feet and warm yourself back up to the idea that you (and your dh) will get through this together. Remember, I'm counting on that "all prior surgeries successful" report from Dr. G. . And I may need you to talk me off the ledge since I'm following you by a week.

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[alliegb3 112]

Nerves=normal. And they were able to fix your hubby's problems for no extra charge! If ur worried they'll find something wrong with u, don't be- theyll fix while u sleep, I'm sure you'll b fine though. No worries!

[piper 13]

I cancelled the surgery in april due to nerves. I don't regret that I cancelled. I had become so worked up and was not up to the challenge in that frame of mind. I needed more time to get in bed with the idea. I did have the surgery last Thursday. I am four days post op. Things have gone very well.

Once I had asked all the questions I could ask on the forum I decided to look inward and get off the Internet. Although this forum is a very supportive environment, i found the ups and downs of various postings were taking me on a roller coaster ride and I needed to find some inner peace. I just recently got back on to help with my recovery. Be kind and patient with yourself.

[ShouldBlittler 89]

Thanks everyone...

I think I am a little afraid of the lifestyle change. I love food. I think I will miss that coping mechanism. Ugh.

[RobbieNow 7]

Nerves are a normal part of the process, I think, especially for a irreversible procedure. My feet got so cold, I cancelled my surgery before it was even scheduled. LOL I went to the seminar, met the coordinator of the bariatric program and the next day doctor's office started to call scheduling the preop tests, cardiology, pulmonology, etc. (such cooperation from the insurance company is not the norm from what I hear). Anyway, I went into a total panic, everything was happening too fast. I decided I needed to spend some time in therapy to find out where the panic reaction was from and so I am not going to be sleeved for at least six months. If you were not nervous, I would be worried that you hadn't thought it through enough. Extra socks and a few of those hot packs hunters use and you will be fine. Best to you and your husband.

Robbie