The Downside Of Weight Loss..

[Finding MeMe 204]

I get angry because people treat you different when you are a certain size. When I was 250 lbs I would wait all day to cross the street now at a smoking 185, size 8 with curves and looking HOT!!! the cars stop and let me cross. I am a frequent gym goer and guys now open doors and flirt. I find it insulting and find myself angry at the discrimination but what can I do. I take it in stride and enjoy the new me.

[DesertRat 32]

Everything in life is a trade-off. We all arrive at today as a result of millions of choices we've made over the course of our lives. Most are obvious, one doesn't wander out into traffic but it's still a choice.

When we choose to have WLS we are making a trade, a very serious trade. There are things we'll leave behind. No more binges of Cookies or ice cream, no more coffee and sweet roll breakfasts, etc. The benefits of the trade are phenomenal however, no more high blood pressure, no more diabetes, extension of life by decades and a better quality of life.

I've been at both the top and the bottom of the weight roller coaster before but never minded the fact that I had to get smaller clothes, shoes, etc. Clothes and shoes wear out anyhow so sooner or later you'll be buying replacements.

As far as people not liking you for you instead of because of your weight, entirely true but also true for the segment of society that have always been normal in weight. There will always be people that don't like you and their stated reasons may or may not be the real reasons. There are people that just don't like you. It's something we all have to deal with and not having weight as a scapegoat forces us to deal the issue.

In my late teens and into my early twenties I had to adjust to a new, more slender, body image. I'm sure that I left a few people puzzled by my responses at times. I was so used to being put down for being obese that even when I was fairly slender I tended to evaluate much of what was said to me as criticism even when it wasn't. When legitimate criticism came my way I found myself defensive because for so many years I had been criticized and teased for my weight. It took years to overcome but eventually I did.

Now, with the weight coming back over the last 20 years or so I'm not eager to revert to my earlier self image. I miss the confidence I had in my slender years and look forward to going back to that state of affairs.

[MKambalimath 92]

Bella, I get that you were just REPOSTING something from someone else and that wasnt all your feelings :/ Anyway, I think everyone will have their own issues with a big weight loss. I was surprised to hear your feet get smaller, lol. I'd much rather see it lost in my butt than my feet! I think it was a great repost to see what other people are thinking after their surgeries. Thats the whole point of this forum, to share our own personal experiences and concerns. Personally I've gotten a lot of reassurance from people on here further along than I am. That thing about husbands rang familiar to me. My friend had a RNY 6 yrs ago and she ended up getting divorced a few yrs later. She told me after I had mine that she read somewhere WLS people have something like a 80% chance of getting divorced after for one reason or another related to either persons feeling on the weight loss. In her case, she thought she had settled for a long time and didnt feel like she had to anymore. LIke when youre heavy you need to settle.....? I cant wait til Im a size 10 pushing a stroller out a store door to see if any man will hold the door open for me, cause they sure dont now, lol!

[cookie2012 44]

This too shall pass.