reallyrosy 161 Posted May 25, 2012 When people ask me if they should have wls, I give a flat NO! I don't think the surgery can be adequately described. There are too many unknown consequences and the big decision should hinge on your mental health: how resilient are you? If u lose weight, will you have the courage to behave like a thinner person? If you can't imagine that, then don't do the surgery. Its not the answer. It is a very expensive, life altering, weight loss tool. What do u think Sent from my SGH-T839 using VST Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
NJsharon 119 Posted May 25, 2012 Hmmm, well right now I am only 2 weeks out. But if one of my friends were to ask me if they should have WLS I would say yes! I think it is a great tool to lose weight, if you use it correctly. 1 DanityChai reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
thebionicbroad 127 Posted May 25, 2012 I would do it all again. Twice. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Itsanewdaycassandra 45 Posted May 25, 2012 I would do it all over again also, but I understand that you don’t want to be a walking advertisement for VGS for everyone who want to drop a few pounds, but if a friend was struggling like I did I would tell them honestly about my journey ,the final decision is up to them. It is a life changing tool not to be taken lightly but it has helped me tremendously and I would have to tell them that! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
alliegb3 112 Posted May 25, 2012 It depends on the person, but I'd recommend the sleeve for those who qualify. I discourage bypass , I work at a hospital that specializes in wls. So it just depends on persons involved Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emily_0192010 168 Posted May 25, 2012 Depending on the person and their individual situation... I would say YES! This was the best decision I ever made. It was (and is) tough mentally, emotionally and physically but I have not only lost the weight but I have learned so much about myself. You are right that it cannot be adequately described and people have to be careful with their mental status and stamina... but if people took that thinking to everything in their life they would be stuck forever. None of us completely understood how this would affect our lives, but we all chose to take the plunge. The risk was worth it for us. The most I would ever say to anyone would be "not now, go do some more research and then do it". I also think it depends on the procedure itself. Some are much more drastic (the bypass) than our sleeves. The whole process is life altering- but in such a positive way. I would encourage anyone seriously considering it to pursue it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reallyrosy 161 Posted May 25, 2012 I think maybe I'm not expressing myself clearly. The emotional component involved in effecting a "lifestyle change" is so overwhelming (to me) that it makes me tell people not to have any sort of wls. One cannot predict if one will be able to make those emotional adjustments that make weight loss a life time achievment and maintaining it possible. The point is, if you don't understand or if u don't feel able to deal with the whole emotional component or you don't know if you can do that, then don't do the surgery. Surgery don't work unless you can accomplish the other. Ok forget it. I guess I'm the only nut in the group. Shrug. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BigGirlVee 57 Posted May 25, 2012 Three simple rules in life: 1. If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it; 2. If you don't ask, the answer will always be no; 3. If you do not step forward, you'll always be in the same place. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Finding MeMe 204 Posted May 25, 2012 I say hell yeah go for it, life is too short to spend it unhealthy. If I was to die tomorrow I would be a much happier and a more content and confident person. The sleeve is a tool and it helped me reach my health and fitness goals. I am much happier today than I was yesterday or last month. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reallyrosy 161 Posted May 25, 2012 I say hell yeah go for it, life is too short to spend it unhealthy. If I was to die tomorrow I would be a much happier and a more content and condiswnr person. The sleeve is a tool and it helped me reach my health and fitness goals. That makes sense. Thanks for sharing! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
emily_0192010 168 Posted May 26, 2012 One cannot predict if one will be able to make those emotional adjustments that make weight loss a life time achievment and maintaining it possible. The point is, if you don't understand or if u don't feel able to deal with the whole emotional component or you don't know if you can do that, then don't do the surgery. Surgery don't work unless you can accomplish the other. I agree with you on this! Maybe I didn't understand you earlier. I will always say "yes, go for it" AS LONG as they are emotionally and mentally stable enough to deal with it. I think this is one of the reasons most of us have to go through psych evals, to make sure we have the tools and support necessary to deal with the emotional roller coaster that is our sleeve. The whole "not able to predict" is true... to a point. Enough people have gone before us at this point that we can at least anticipate some of what is to come. I personally feel that is enough to base your decision on. Because its not just with WLS that we cannot predict the emotional aspect of things. Anything new and drastic can have those consequences as well, during our everyday lives. We have to take the risk at some point in our lives. Might as well do it and better yourself along the way right? Especially since most of us aren't doing this just to "look prettier" but rather to be healthier. And you are definitely NOT a nut!!! And even if you were... I love nuts They have great Protein Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
100%Sleeved 148 Posted May 26, 2012 I tell the ones I feel can benefit from this. Since I've had my surgery, 5 friends have had it and 3 others are going though the process. If they are already skinny, then none of their business lol. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reallyrosy 161 Posted May 26, 2012 I agree with you on this! Maybe I didn't understand you earlier. I will always say "yes, go for it" AS LONG as they are emotionally and mentally stable enough to deal with it. I think this is one of the reasons most of us have to go through psych evals, to make sure we have the tools and support necessary to deal with the emotional roller coaster that is our sleeve. The whole "not able to predict" is true... to a point. Enough people have gone before us at this point that we can at least anticipate some of what is to come. I personally feel that is enough to base your decision on. Because its not just with WLS that we cannot predict the emotional aspect of things. Anything new and drastic can have those consequences as well, during our everyday lives. We have to take the risk at some point in our lives. Might as well do it and better yourself along the way right? Especially since most of us aren't doing this just to "look prettier" but rather to be healthier. And you are definitely NOT a nut!!! And even if you were... I love nuts They have great Protein LOL! Thanks, Emily. You -do- understand! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
