Vacationing With Family Who Doesn't Know

[carr1015 2]

Hi, new here. This is my first post or reply. Just got my surgery date of July 2. For now I only want my husband and mom to know about being sleeved. However we will be going on vacation with my husband's family in August. I believe it will be my seventh week out. How can we eat out without me looking like I have an eating disorder? I thought about telling them that I just had my gallbladder removed. My husband wants me to wait to have the surgery until after vacation. That would put me right into the beginning of the new school year for my 4 & 6 year old kids. I of course want to do the surgery as soon as possible and feel like it will never be the "right" time. Help!

[sabstar22 25]

Gallbladder story seems to have worked for many.... too bad mines been gone for a while, and no one would believe that for me. Good Luck!

[ChristineS NY 44]

Welcome to the forum! My surgery date is also July 2nd We also share a similar situation, my husbands family is having a family reunion in August and they don't know about my surgery either. I have the same concerns as you about eating while with them. I know eventually they will know about my surgery, I'm just not ready to share the info now.

[Kat Crowder 34]

My suggestion would be to say that you're trying to eat better and follow the advice of your doctor - which is totally true. I'd feel guilty if I actually lied.

I haven't heard about Bound Brook, NJ in years! I lived in Bridgewater when I was a kid about 35 years ago - what a kick to see the name!

[carr1015 2]

Thanks sabstar22 & ChristineS NY. Christine you and I should stay in touch with our situations since we have similarities. I only have one issue with the gallbladder story....what if I end up having it removed later in life. You only get one! lol

[sabstar22 25]

very true lol I like Kats idea, doctors orders.. I may use that

[Liberated Sleeve 148]

Just tell them you have started a new routine by dieting and exercising and have lost (fill in the blank) ________ pounds so far. Tell them you are doing Proteins first, etc and that Protein is very filling. Let them know that even though you are on vacation you have made a life decision to make changes and won't be persuaded to derail yourself. Then move the conversation on........ Have fun and don't let them decide when you have your surgery!

[carr1015 2]

Kat-small world huh? I like your idea since I'm not comfortable lying either.

[littlet 1]

I too had to weigh the options of being sleeved before vs after vacation. The deciding factor for me was that I would be on the plane for 5-6 hours. This fact would put me at risk for a blood clot forming which could cause a DVT or possibly something worse. Ultimately, I want to live life to the full & if postponing the sleeve for a month ensures a safer recovery, then it's worth it.

[carr1015 2]

Thanks Liberated Sleeve. I'm glad I posted this. I never felt so supported since this idea entered my mind. You guys are awesome. I'm so happy I found this website.

[carr1015 2]

Littlet-good point. We will be driving for about 13 hours which to me sounds comparable to your 5-6 hours on a plane......now I'm really confused as to what to do now! I just really want out of this body but not at the cost of my life. I will call the doctor tomorrow.

[ChristineS NY 44]

We definitely should! I will probably just tell them that I am on a strict diet and eat the Protein first like Liberated Sleeve and Kat said while at the family reunion. I also wouldn't post pone my surgery for their sake unless there was a health risk.

This forum is a great place to come to with any and all concerns no matter what they are without judgment, I love it!

[BenisaMartim4 369]

I promise, you are going to have to come up with something really good if you are going to hide this from people you are staying with and eating 3 meals a day with. I went on vacation with my in-laws at 6 weeks out. They knew that I had had the surgery and were still alarmed at what a tiny amount I ate all week. I also had nausea and vomiting and had to lay down often due to weakness/dizziness. Our drive was a six hour trip and by the time we got there my legs and feet had swollen to double. If they had not of known what was going on with me, I know they would have insisted that I go to the hospital. They were getting worried even though they did. So just be prepared. None of us know how our recovery will be post surgery. If everything goes perfect, you might be able to hide it. If it doesn't, they are going to know you are hiding something. Don't be cruel and make them conjure up some terrible terminal illness that you may be dying of.

[joyful noise 101]

Gosh, being moved to Florida (yuk) I miss NJ. I miss Bound Brook; my family lives in Dunellen and I lived in Mon. County.

I am going up to NJ in the fall and am hoping my surgery is over by then. I just plan on saying that after being overweight all these years, I decided to do something about it and am eating better.

[vsginnj 415]

What? Your from jersey and care what others think,that's why we sent you to Florida.