Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

September Bandsters



Recommended Posts

McW - Don't know whom you were jumping on, but you must not have read back quite far enough. No one was "jumping on" Bettina.

On a couple issues or topics, there were some of us who had differing opinions and experiences and were concerned that those would be ignored because Bettina was making herself out to be an "expert authority" on those topics by repeatedly stating her qualifications. If a reader thinks someone is an "expert", why read any further or consider a different source of information? When I said something to Bettina about it, she became very defensive and acted wounded.

No one ever, to my knowledge, has had a problem with anyone speaking their mind here. But we should ALL be able to do it with impunity, not just ones with whom you may agree. Furthermore, if you have information and experiences that don't jibe with someone who is sharing information contrary to yours, why can't you talk about it without everybody getting all het up?

So attack on, if you must, but if any of this has served to make people aware that all posts should enjoy the same credibility here, then it has been a good thing.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

McW - Don't know whom you were jumping on, but you must not have read back quite far enough. No one was "jumping on" Bettina.

On a couple issues or topics, there were some of us who had differing opinions and experiences and were concerned that those would be ignored because Bettina was making herself out to be an "expert authority" on those topics by repeatedly stating her qualifications. If a reader thinks someone is an "expert", why read any further or consider a different source of information? When I said something to Bettina about it, she became very defensive and acted wounded.

No one ever, to my knowledge, has had a problem with anyone speaking their mind here. But we should ALL be able to do it with impunity, not just ones with whom you may agree. Furthermore, if you have information and experiences that don't jibe with someone who is sharing information contrary to yours, why can't you talk about it without everybody getting all het up?

So attack on, if you must, but if any of this has served to make people aware that all posts should enjoy the same credibility here, then it has been a good thing.

BJ,

I don't name names, but as far as who I was "jumping on," those people who feel threatened by my statements usually respond first.

If people feel that Bettina was taking it upon herself to be an "expert authority" and possibly jeopardizing a reader's knowledge, sure, maybe they feel it's in the best interest of the group to address that.

However, learning HOW to address such issues is a great life lesson. I stick up for the underdog. When I see people take on a demeaning, condescending, holier-than-thou attitude, I'll say something. Call it an "attack" if you must; seems to me some people don't like to be confronted about their attitudes.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was banded on the 14th and i thought staying in the hospital a night was great, they have that sweet little button that you push and everything feels better

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Furthermore, perhaps even a better decision would have been to talk to Bettina privately, instead of making her feel like an "idiot," as she put, on the public board.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I have finished my last appointment with my Surgeon today. Surgery date is September 27. I have been so excited about this surgery and now that it is about to happen am nervous and excited at once

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am glad to hear some people didn't have to do the weeks of liquid, i was supposed to do a one week liquid diet but felt like crap so it went one day liquid one day food. Is there anyone else that has had this and is a vegetarian. I am really having problems coming up with as much Protein as needed, esp doing the 2 wk post op liquid diet. (which i have been very good) although i have been experiencing shooting pains from my shoulder into my neck, the doctor said if it gets worse to go to the er. oh and i want one of those cute little count down things!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I haven't even been able to sleep in my bed yet. The pain I have had has not been great but when I go to bed it is just enough at port site to irritate the crap out of me so I have been sleeping on the sofa or in my chair. As for all the other garbage, there are no experts. Our surgeons aren't even experts regardless of how many they have done. They are all giving us their best opinions and we all know about opinions. That's why they call medicine "practice". My doc had me on Atkins after the seminar, Clear Liquids for 2 days pre-op, 3 days post-op, liquids on days 4,5,6, & 7. I have no mushy stage. After liquids I can have cottage cheese, tuna, scrambled eggs and the like for 2 weeks and add one food at a time after that. Always remembering "Eat Protein First". But the surgeons are all different. I intend to do what my doc says cause if anything does go wrong, at least he should be fully informed about what I have eaten. Katt

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Like I said. If this helps to clear the air on some topics, it's a good thing. That's why it came up in the first place. Not for making anyone feel threatened or embarrassed, but to fix some stuff.

If you mean by what you said, that I'm the culprit, dude, I don't have a problem with that. Jump in with both feet. I did, and I'm glad I did.

Even though YOU don't name names, I totally understand. I tried my darndest to never name names. If I had wanted to do that, I would have addressed her directly, in private. But alas, like you said those who feel "threatened" jump in first. Interesting reference, by the way.

As for the not-so-sweet "Queen" remark - I'm surprised that you noticed. I am indeed Queen. Not of the LTF, but of my realm. Hope you are of yours too.

Nice chattin' with you, Miss Good Humor.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Just leave them on- they will come off soon- the put a skin adhesive below them called mastisol to make the last longer!!

Yours have done above and beyond their duty!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Lizette1122

      Anyone had the TORe procedure? How did it go? How much weight did you loose? 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • LadyVeteran1

      Sleeve surgery is on April 14th.  I am counting the days!!  Can't wait!
      · 3 replies
      1. Brookie2shoes

        Me too girl!! Are you in the full liquid diet right now? It’s sooooo hard!

      2. LadyVeteran1

        Not yet. I was told I only have to do 24 hours of a liquid diet. But I have my pre-op tomorrow so I’m going to confirm if I need to do longer.

      3. buildabetteranna

        Your so close now! It's gonna be great :) Wishing you a speedy recovery and looking forward to seeing how it goes!

    • buildabetteranna

      Down 33 lbs and slightly stalled, but I'm gonna reevaluate and push through. I started back to work last week after 2 years of being disabled due to mental health as well as my weight. It's a great job and I'm just so happy to have this opportunity at a second chance at life. Hope everyone is having their best journey ❤️ Together, we got this!
      · 2 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Great work Anna! Keep it up 😁

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 1 reply
      1. stevieoriole

        Am feeling this right now. My surgery date is 4/1. Sign the consent tomorrow. I feel like I overloaded myself with too much info, too many opinions. Got to the point where I was wondering if I should do this. Then I thought of my reasons for taking this step and that settled my nerves. Still get moments of doubt but am striving forward. Am just going to follow my book from the surgeon. Joined this because I was told by my dietician that I should do this for support

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×