Is this just a stage?

[MsButterKup23 1]

I've lost almost 125lbs in just over a year. I am within 21lbs of a normal BMI and I just don't care anymore. I mean I'm fine as long as I don't gain weight, but I don't care if I ever see myself at a normal BMI I am just tired of being labeled the person who had weight loss surgery and lost most of her weight. It seems that weight loss is all people talk to me about anymore.

Anyone else having a hard time mentally after losing a great deal of weight? It's a very strange place to be. I am smaller now than I was in 5th grade and it's a lot to soak in. Mentally I still feel like I am 300lbs.

[Jachut 487]

It will probably take your head a long time to catch up with your body, but hopefully it will cease to be a topic of interest for other people once they've adjusted to the new you.

As to whether you've finished losing weight, that's up to you. There's nothing wrong with any of the options, losing it, not losing it or simply taking a breather. But that 21lb will make more difference on you now than probably the first 50 or 60 did so there's probably still a lot more changing to do if you keep going.

I can kind of understand how you feel because I dont see the change in myself all the time. But then again, I never saw myself as "fat" either. I just closed my eyes to it. Practically I knew I was but in the mirror I looked no different to what I looked at 21. So I can kind of bear to look now but I really cant see the change.

It sure messes with your head.

[mousecrazy 2]

You lost a lot of weight in a pretty short time...so, first of all, congratulations!

I think now you just need to settle into to your new "self." What if you're not at a normal BMI? It's only a number.

Are you happy? Do you feel good, healthy?

Learn all about your new light body, and get used to it...it might take a year. So what?

You've worked hard...enjoy it.

[Miper70 0]

You have done amazing things........sit back and enjoy the ride.

[Jeannine 0]

My best friend has the same problem. She was banded eight months ahead of me. Several of our joint friends only talk to her about weight loss. She likes to visit with me because we don't talk bands at all unless we are going to our support group together. She says she's got more going on in her life than her band!

Some of our friends are truly in awe of her weight loss and mean well, but they are the ones having the problem relating to her weight change.

In the meantime, she has gotten really good at re-directing the conversations.

[tztmama 0]

Yep. I am about 25 pounds from where I think I want to end up and I have just sort of been "maintaining". For me, my fatness kept me "invisible" and now people at work are constantly talking to me about the weight loss. I appreciate it and know they are just being supportive but there is a part of me that wants to run and hide behind something. Like a timid bunny although to know me, one would never picture me that way. Interesting.