Ideas for passing the time????

[nightingale2u 42]

Donali ... honestly... I love your wisdom!

I remember my Grandma... with her soft but deep laugh... her wonderful wit... fantabulous cooking skills... and best of all... I still remember sitting with her and rocking in her chair... all snuggled up and comfy into her soft and warm cushy body. I think that is one of my comforting memories. My body is exactly like hers... but since I don't imagine I'll have grandchildren anytime soon... I think I'd like to work on becoming a skinny Grandma and I'll use flannel quilts for the soft... warm... cushy part.:cool:

I totally agree with you... being fat builds character and I think we get to keep it even if the fat leaves!

I can't believe it is 3:10 AM and I am posting...lol. I have all of my pre-op testing tomorrow and I have ta tell ya... I am HUNGRY and THIRSTY already!!!! LOL.... bless my husband for he will be spending the morning with a very hungry and thirsty woman that has not had her JAVA!!!!!!

[Alexandra 55]

I can't believe I've missed this amazing thread until now! I am deeply moved, on several levels.

Exorcising our negative feelings is very important, and I think a process we all handle in our own way. My particular approach was to focus on what was working in my life--essentially, my job--and pretty much ignore what wasn't--my weight, my terrible first marriage, my alcoholic mother. For a long time I pretended these negatives don't matter, that there are a lot of people worse off, and as long as I have (whatever was giving me joy at the moment) I'd be OK.

Hey, whatever works. At some point I got to a place where I decided I'm worth more, and I jettisoned the husband, detached from my mother, and, well, lived with the weight. But that was pretty good for a start!

There are plenty of negative memories from my childhood, lots of diary pages scrawled with 'WHY CAN'T I LOSE WEIGHT?!?!?!?!?!?!?" in psychedelic colors. I was "Thunder Thighs" on my high school volleyball team. Charming. But you know what? Time heals lots of wounds, and when I think about these times I'm really over them.

There's a lot to be said for being 42. You get a lot smarter with age. :cool: