female only Feeling Indifferent

[Iliana82 84]

Hey everyone. Prior to my surgery my boyfriend and I have had some trouble. Not big trouble but some. Now that I feel more confident I feel very indifferent. To the point where he has noticed. I don't know of this is a phase or I am just done with our relationship. Has this happened to anyone?

[kimmy*custis 276]

Hi , you are going thru sooo many emotions right now, your body is going thru some major changes so it is hard to say. Maybe a sit down, heart to heart is needed to find out how you are both feeling, cant hurt to try. Best of luck to you and congrats on your awesome weight loss!

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

When I get indifferent with someone, I'm pretty much done. Time for me to move on. Congrats on your success!

[NancyJerry 139]

You have been through and are continuing to go through very significant and life-altering situations. It sounds like it's time for you to really take care of you! Try the heart-to-heart. There's a reason you got together in the first place, but don't settle. If it's time to move on, then do it. There do seem to be a lot of posts about relationships here. I bet you can find a ton of support.

Congrats on your weight loss (and your battle with cancer). You look so happy!

[Stirling2002 2]

OMG! I am going through that too. Actually, I finally decided to say enough was enough. My boyfriend always seemed to find time for everything but me (especially work). He'd squeeze me in when it was convenient for him. The week of the surgery he took off the week to spend with me. However, after I left the hospital I never saw him. He was "busy" with other things. I finally said that I was not going to put up with it. I need to be important and valued in a relationship, and if post-op he didn't care he never would. He is overweight and said to me that he feared I would dump him after I got all "skinny" so maybe that was the problem. And although I'm only 1 week post-op, I have more confidence just from having the surgery- by taking that step. So, good luck to you, be strong, and I've learned that, for me, indifference means time to let go. Stacie

[hollygolightly 6]

Being overweight was keeping my relationship from moving forward for years. Once I decided to have surgery, I felt there may be hope for finally getting married and feeling attractive again. Since surgery, my BF has been more distant than ever. I am starting to think I just need to focus on myself and maybe all that I wanted over the years (to get married to him) may not be what I want after all.

I can tell you the only focus I have is to get this weight off. Who knows how our relationship will turn out but for once it is about ME and what I WANT to happen. It's kind of empowering to have choice when you don't have the extra weight as an excuse for being treated unfairly.