Unsupportive Husband Thinks Sleeve Wont Work

[MGM 140]

Every time I talk to my hubs about it, he thinks I want what my sister had (a tummy tuck). He doesn't get it. He dies t understand that I'm slowly dying. Our ins doesn't cover it, he won't consign to finance it and I'm doing all I can to get my 401k out to get it done in Tijuana. I feel if I just 'save' I'll be dead by the time I have enough. Discouraged.

[MGM 140]

Hi there melissamae99 and welcome! I am also planning surgery' date=' and have been researching for ages. I know keeping it off is the key, and the sleeve is simply a tool. Many sleevers have failed through thinking the sleeve will do everything for them -and so for me, I am seeing a psychologist to get to the bottom of my "head hunger" so I am armed with all the tools at my disposal to take it off and keep it off. I am so sorry your OH is not supportive. Surely you deserve the benefit of the doubt, this is a powerful and serious route to take and it seems he is mentally setting you up for failure no matter what you do. Perhaps he is not as invested in your WL as you think. Some friends and family are enablers and it suits them that we remain obese for whatever reasons. I may be completely off base here but if you are serious enough to consider surgery and he is not against it for fear of complications, encouragement is the least you can ask. I am so doggone stubborn that in your situation I we'd be on they warpath now to PROVE him wrong! How's that for an extra bit of motivation! Good luck and I do hope he sees the light. Xx[/quote']

That's what I plan to do Smoggy! PROVE HIM WRONG! He is starting to come around though! He definitely knows now this is something I AM doing and not something I have just been wishing for!