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Had "the Talk" With My Hubby



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So, my husband's aunt and cousin and I are heading to Mexico in 8 Weeks for surgery. I have a love/hate relationship with my mil, and she has a big flapping mouth. None of the three of us want dh's mother to know why we are going on "vacation", so I strictly told my hubby that he is NOT to tell his mother anything other than we are going on a girls retreat to Celebrate the cousins upcoming wedding. Lol, well, my hubby didn't care for me telling him not to tell his mom. He became defensive of her! I quickly told him is is not his mothers business to know our private business. I'm worried that my dh will spill the Beans and upset his aunt and cousin. Help!

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That is horrible! This is a private matter. Plus your husband should be a lot more supportive of you. Is he on Team Mom or on Team Cissiesue? There is only ONE right answer to that question. Sorry, I take it personally when men act like jackasses.

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I agree that your husband should be on your "team". However, you cannot control what he chooses to do and what may come of it with his aunt and cousin. It's his decision and it's him who will have to suffer the consequences of his choice. You wouldn't be responsible for that and shouldn't worry about it, IMHO. I hope for you that he keeps his mouth shut and lets y'all enjoy "your vacation". Good luck!

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