10 Months Post Op And Sad Changes

[imawhodat 3]

I am 10 months post sleeve and down 100lbs since day of surgery. Unfortuntely my husband and I separated a few weeks ago. I'm in a very bad place mentally. I'm heart broken for my kids but I KNOW in my heart this is for the best. My husband does not want this. We've had problems prior to my surgery though and now I just can't take it anymore. It infuritates me that people think "oh she lost that weight now she is going to leave him." I've heard that comment about some of my friends that had WLS. That is sooo not the case with us.

I'm seeing a therapist and taking it literally one moment at a time. I'm scared and very upset with myself. I have been eating JUNK...lots of it. I KNOW this isn't what I should do and that is how I gained weight in the first place. I'm using food to self soothe. I don't need a kick in the ass...I know this isn't what I should be doing. I guess I'm here just to vent.

Since my WLS I've had a couple of health issues that I am dealing with along with the emotional crap. I'm feeling so overwhelmed.

I also do not know how to handle the attention I'm getting from people..mainly men. I'm not used to being looked at in positive way. When I was overweight it was RARE for someone to make eye contact with me, much less speak to me.

I feel like I am rambling. If any of you have gone through a divorce/separation post WLS feel free to comment.

[GivingItMyAll 168]

I have not yet been sleeved, but I have been through a separation, so I can relate on that level. I think that you seeing a therapist is a good step, for you. My husband and I were able to reconcile, and I NEVER thought that would happen. Hang in there. Keep doing what's right for you. If your marriage is meant to survive, it will. If its not, you are taking the necessary steps to put you and you children in a better place. Feel free to vent anytime. That's what we're here for.

[Rootman 1,101]

I know that WLS can cause a lot of emotional upheaval so it may not be the CAUSE of your troubles it certainly plays a part in your emotional health. You are wise to seek professional help. We all wish the best for you and sincerely hope for a resolution that is best for you and your family.

[DisappearingDivis 36]

I'm sorry your going trough such a rough patch (HUG).

I have to admit that one of the first thoughts through my mind when someone is divorcing after WLS is because of losing weight. But I don't think that applies to every marriage! Some have issues well before and unfortunately the emotional strain of WLS brings out every imperfection in our relationships. I've noticed that is even true of friendships.

I know it's hard to ignore the BS people say but PLEASE don't let it hinder all the hard work you've done! Try and find another emotional outlet for your feelings. You've done do much in such a small amount of time. The fact that you're seeking therapy shows you have a good head on your shoulders and an open mind. Good Luck!!

[Buffy 4]

I am 10 months post sleeve and down 100lbs since day of surgery. Unfortuntely my husband and I separated a few weeks ago. I'm in a very bad place mentally. I'm heart broken for my kids but I KNOW in my heart this is for the best. My husband does not want this. We've had problems prior to my surgery though and now I just can't take it anymore. It infuritates me that people think "oh she lost that weight now she is going to leave him." I've heard that comment about some of my friends that had WLS. That is sooo not the case with us.

I'm seeing a therapist and taking it literally one moment at a time. I'm scared and very upset with myself. I have been eating JUNK...lots of it. I KNOW this isn't what I should do and that is how I gained weight in the first place. I'm using food to self soothe. I don't need a kick in the ass...I know this isn't what I should be doing. I guess I'm here just to vent.

Since my WLS I've had a couple of health issues that I am dealing with along with the emotional crap. I'm feeling so overwhelmed.

I also do not know how to handle the attention I'm getting from people..mainly men. I'm not used to being looked at in positive way. When I was overweight it was RARE for someone to make eye contact with me' date=' much less speak to me.

I feel like I am rambling. If any of you have gone through a divorce/separation post WLS feel free to comment.[/quote']

I am so sorry, but know your problems go deeper than your sleeve. I will keep you in my prayers. My sleeve date is May 15----I, as you worked too hard to get to this place. Please do not eat you way back... Keep the good thoughts, and keep talking to anyone who can keep you on track. Take care.....if your marriage is to continue it will. Sometimes what we as mortals want is not always the bigger picture. My best to your family. Buffy