Relationship With Hubby..better Or Worse After Sleeve Results?

[Joiebean 53]

Disinterested in me romantically that is. We are still best friends. It just seems almost platonic...and I definitely NEVER feel appreciated anymore. It more about what I haven't done then what I have.

And in all honesty....I went off on him this morning for saying that i looked "fine." He totally didn't get why I was upset and looked at me like I was totally overreacting, which set me off even more. To which I just said 'whatever' (the quintessential 90's kid response) and went to work.

Nevermind that I spend hours getting my hair done to look "pretty" to him and he tells me he doesn't like it. I got it done last week and when I can home he immediately had a concern about the color and never once said it looked good. It looked "fine." I get my eyebrows waxed, lip waxed (which is freakin painful, but I do it...) AND have lost 45LBS!!!!! I don't get it.....I do everything I can to make myself the best I can be (let alone being really successful at work and making sure to include his family in everything and Celebrate their events when he won't even do the tasks I ask him to do to help me) and he just doesn't seem to appreciate any of it. The last thank you I got was a few weeks ago when I made meatloaf for our friends that came over. Previously he had asked me not to make it anymore because my last meatloaf made him sick.

I'm sorry...I'm just venting...its just been a lot to take in lately.....I blew up this morning.

[aliandrews 98]

Disinterested in me romantically that is. We are still best friends. It just seems almost platonic...and I definitely NEVER feel appreciated anymore. It more about what I haven't done then what I have.

And in all honesty....I went off on him this morning for saying that i looked "fine." He totally didn't get why I was upset and looked at me like I was totally overreacting, which set me off even more. To which I just said 'whatever' (the quintessential 90's kid response) and went to work.

Nevermind that I spend hours getting my hair done to look "pretty" to him and he tells me he doesn't like it. I got it done last week and when I can home he immediately had a concern about the color and never once said it looked good. It looked "fine." I get my eyebrows waxed, lip waxed (which is freakin painful, but I do it...) AND have lost 45LBS!!!!! I don't get it.....I do everything I can to make myself the best I can be (let alone being really successful at work and making sure to include his family in everything and Celebrate their events when he won't even do the tasks I ask him to do to help me) and he just doesn't seem to appreciate any of it. The last thank you I got was a few weeks ago when I made meatloaf for our friends that came over. Previously he had asked me not to make it anymore because my last meatloaf made him sick.

I'm sorry...I'm just venting...its just been a lot to take in lately.....I blew up this morning.

I am sorry you are going through this. Maybe he is worried that he is going to lose you and is going about it the wrong way. He might think that someone will steal you away from him. I think you need to have a conversation with him about how he is acting. It isn't cool.

[kayte819 95]

Well my situation is probably a bit different because my husband is a chubby chaser! He loves a big ass & when we met I was already heavy....probably exactly where I am right this minute. He is extremely supportive & says he loves me whether I weigh 500 lbs or 100 lbs so only time will tell. But last night he said I can't believe o get you for my whole life, so I'm not terribly worried! We have an amazing relationship. One of my friends told me last week that she dreams of having a marriage like ours That's so nice to hear!

For those of you who are struggling, I am sincerely saddened to hear that your success & happiness comes with a price. JoieBean - that sucks Hopeful that it turns around!! (((Hugs)))

[bellabbr 50]

I married my husband almost 10 years ago and I was 220. When I had surgery in Nov I was 233. He loves me for me and always have. He had a hard time with me getting the surgery because he was scared and the first couple of weeks he hovered and worried a lot. Drove me insane, but I knew its because he cared. After 2 months and no complications he completely backed off and was back to his easy going self. He does tell me I smile more often and that makes him really happy, I tell him that I didn't smile before because the fat was weigh down my cheeks and it was hard to smile, but now its easier..lol. But asides from his over protectiveness in the beginning, nope nothing has changed.

Other people on the other hand, treat me completely different. People are nicer to me, doors are held when I am walking into stores, stuff that never happened before. Which is really sad how much worse people treat fat people

[New1 201]

I was 100 lbs lighter when I met my husband and he has loved me the same for the past 7 years. He was nervous about the surgery and really had me reconsider surgery for several years. He has been very supportive since the surgery and is trying to eat better himself. He has always been a normal weight.