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http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/14245677/from/RS.3/

The article above is interesting to me, and will probably ring true for most of the people on this site who read it. What I don't understand is that someone paid money to someone else to research it to figure it out.

I also don't understand why men are not mentioned in this article. I mentioned it to my mom (who truthfully tries to understand my struggles, but really doesn't) and she says "they don't take things as seriously". *sigh*

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Yup soo true my mom, dad, and nana make comments about my weight and my sisters weight at least once a day. My sister is now going out with a real loser and my parent don't understand why. Even when i tell them well maybe she would break up with him if you stop saying she will never get a man at her weight. It's pathetic that they needed to do a study to prove this point but seriously even if my parents read this article they still wouldn't believe it. I think that they honestly think they are helping. As crazy as that seems, maybe i just think this because after every comment they say well i only tell you because i love you. you know what as i am writing that i see how f***ed up that is. If they loved me then why do they say such hurtful things. yea parents should just be supportive.

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I'm suprised they spent money to research that also. I thought we had already established that verbal abuse will do a number on any child. One hateful comment can be etched into our brain for a lifetime...don't ask me how I know. I just hope and pray that my children don't fall victim to such. We need to be very aware of that. I have a little girl who is 8 and sometimes her brother calls her fat. She is most definitely not fat. I need to be vigilant. Thanks for the reminder.

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What's funniest to me, is that my mom said lots of things about my weight growing up and she's the one that sent me that article. I think she sent it thinking about the stuff she knows my dad said, but hers is just as memorable.

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My mom was the worst offender growing up but now acts like she never made my weight an issue. I remember overhearing her talking to her friends about how concerned she was getting with my weight, etc...It was very damaging to my self-image. I then went thru anorexia and bulimia throughout highschool and college and then fast forward a few years and I am morbidly obese again, just like in childhood. I think parents making a huge issue of your weight when you are small only makes the problem worse. My sister received entirely different feedback from my mom b/c she was "chubby" but not fat. Even though she ate ten times more than me growing up she was never scolded for her weight/appetite. Yet now, mom talks like she was my #1 supporter growing up to have a good body image. Oh well...life goes on. I just know what I need to do when I have kids now....

~Liz~

03/10/06

241/178/160

5'7''

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