Marimaru 7 Posted August 8, 2006 http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/14245677/from/RS.3/ The article above is interesting to me, and will probably ring true for most of the people on this site who read it. What I don't understand is that someone paid money to someone else to research it to figure it out. I also don't understand why men are not mentioned in this article. I mentioned it to my mom (who truthfully tries to understand my struggles, but really doesn't) and she says "they don't take things as seriously". *sigh* Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ariel 1 Posted August 9, 2006 Yup soo true my mom, dad, and nana make comments about my weight and my sisters weight at least once a day. My sister is now going out with a real loser and my parent don't understand why. Even when i tell them well maybe she would break up with him if you stop saying she will never get a man at her weight. It's pathetic that they needed to do a study to prove this point but seriously even if my parents read this article they still wouldn't believe it. I think that they honestly think they are helping. As crazy as that seems, maybe i just think this because after every comment they say well i only tell you because i love you. you know what as i am writing that i see how f***ed up that is. If they loved me then why do they say such hurtful things. yea parents should just be supportive. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mert 0 Posted August 9, 2006 I'm suprised they spent money to research that also. I thought we had already established that verbal abuse will do a number on any child. One hateful comment can be etched into our brain for a lifetime...don't ask me how I know. I just hope and pray that my children don't fall victim to such. We need to be very aware of that. I have a little girl who is 8 and sometimes her brother calls her fat. She is most definitely not fat. I need to be vigilant. Thanks for the reminder. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Marimaru 7 Posted August 9, 2006 What's funniest to me, is that my mom said lots of things about my weight growing up and she's the one that sent me that article. I think she sent it thinking about the stuff she knows my dad said, but hers is just as memorable. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Iulizbug 0 Posted August 10, 2006 My mom was the worst offender growing up but now acts like she never made my weight an issue. I remember overhearing her talking to her friends about how concerned she was getting with my weight, etc...It was very damaging to my self-image. I then went thru anorexia and bulimia throughout highschool and college and then fast forward a few years and I am morbidly obese again, just like in childhood. I think parents making a huge issue of your weight when you are small only makes the problem worse. My sister received entirely different feedback from my mom b/c she was "chubby" but not fat. Even though she ate ten times more than me growing up she was never scolded for her weight/appetite. Yet now, mom talks like she was my #1 supporter growing up to have a good body image. Oh well...life goes on. I just know what I need to do when I have kids now.... ~Liz~ 03/10/06 241/178/160 5'7'' Share this post Link to post Share on other sites