Are There Any Single Sleevers Out There..

[LizTex2587 212]

I am sorry you had to deal with the ass end of my gender. I've recently had to deal with an issue myself and it is quite difficult sometimes to understand why people do the things they do. My girl of 10 years left me last month for someone else. She told me I had changed to much. She told me I look and feel different and she wanted to move on. For the last 3 weeks I have felt so guilty for losing 110 pounds. I have felt so ashamed for changing myself because that's the reason she left me. Because I changed for the good. I do things now that I thought I never could. I wanted to grow old with her. I know it sounds corny but I didn't expect this from surgery. I knew some things would change but I never imagined it would be this. Even other people such as co-workers, family and even some friends treat me differently. Almost as if I was invisible before and now all of a sudden they want my company. It is heavy on my heart that people are this way. But you know what, I do me. I have learned that I need to focus on myself and I have done that. Despite the issues at hand I work 2 jobs, work out twice a day and just stay positive. Thank goodness for my dog Oreo Thanks for sharing your post. It's always easier to talk to someone about something when they have to deal with BS as well. Good day to you.

I'm appalled at what has happened to you! I mean, it was tough enough taking this from someone that I didn't really know...but to be treated like that by someone you were with for 10 years? I can't even imagine...Better things await you, my friend. Just you wait and see!

[LizTex2587 212]

I'm single and worried also about a man seeing pics of me heavy and being turned off. I don't have have a man and have no idea on how to get one but I guess it could happen. Anyway I've been so focused on being a mom to m my son that I've spent the last 16 years just staying home and doing stuff with him. Well he is out and about now doing 16 year old boy stuff so that leaves me alone. I've never been lonely. I talked to other single moms that say they are lonely and can't believe that I just stayed home and didn't care about having a man in my life. Well now that my son is older I totally get what they mean about being lonely. Now that I'm thinner and have way more confidence I'm always wanting to go places the problem is is that I don't have anyone to go with. My girl friends are all married with kids. My single friends want to hang at bars and I don't. I have no idea how to find a man. So although I love my new body I for the first time ever am lonely.

I prepared myself for rejection...but that doesn't mean it didn't feel like I was taking a bullet. However, to the person who really cares, it won't be that big of an issue. There may still be some things to work through in regards to how heavy I used to be, but the same could be said of any issue regarding my past. I shared my experience because I don't want to see anyone lose their confidence over something like this...Do not be ashamed of what used to be...you have changed it!

[LonghornNiner 75]

I'm 29, newly single and newly sleeved in South Louisiana as of May 27th! My fiance' passed away last summer and I haven't dated anyone since. I'm down 26 pounds so far. I still have quite a ways to go, but I'm looking forward to the possibilities this journey presents. I guess the cliche' dinner dates will be quite different as I've already had to explain to a couple of colleagues over lunch the reason I couldn't finish my food. So far, everyone has been very positive and supportive (at least to my face LOL)!

Wow I am truly sorry for your loss and I wish you the best of luck in your journey!! Congrats on the weight loss so far

[LonghornNiner 75]

I prepared myself for rejection...but that doesn't mean it didn't feel like I was taking a bullet. However, to the person who really cares, it won't be that big of an issue. There may still be some things to work through in regards to how heavy I used to be, but the same could be said of any issue regarding my past. I shared my experience because I don't want to see anyone lose their confidence over something like this...Do not be ashamed of what used to be...you have changed it!

I agree and I myself hope to find that one person. My goal with love was to always use the advice my grandparents would give me to seek out my soul mate. My grandparents were married 66 years before my grandmother died. My grandfather lived everyday after that loving her more and more. That, my friend, is truly what love should be about. She may have broken my heart but not my spirit.

[mytime2shine 229]

I agree and I myself hope to find that one person. My goal with love was to always use the advice my grandparents would give me to seek out my soul mate. My grandparents were married 66 years before my grandmother died. My grandfather lived everyday after that loving her more and more. That' date=' my friend, is truly what love should be about. She may have broken my heart but not my spirit.[/quote']

After reading your previous post, I just have to say-- her leaving you was about HER not you!

[debby4119 0]

Hi, I just came across this forum. I would love to meet sleevers in the Brockton, Ma area. I tried the suport group on 1st mon afternoon at tufts but only 2 other people and I had to pay $30.00 co pay plus $20.00 transportation. I started pre op Jan 2013 had surgery 3/18/13. I lost 23lbs pre op. So far 48lbs since surgery. If anyone is out there and interested in getting together to talk let me know. Thanks

[diamond3 20]

I broke down and joined one of the online dating sites- dating is a lot harder now! People say and do just about everything to get some attention. It was so much easier before when people weren't "after one thing". Man..... I definitely wouldn't have ever thought dating would be harder now. I just want to meet someone normal that wants a real relationship. And won't be freaked out by the surgery news. Anyone near Boston?

[goirish78 100]

At the end of the day, you can't win the lottery without buying a ticket; and yes, sometimes the odds of finding someone seem very slim. It does happen though, and having the confidence to take a deep breath and put yourself out there when you're ready has a lot to do with it. I dated briefly in college, and then spent most of the next 10 years of my life burying myself in work and contenting myself with all my friends. I had a really good, if not completely fulfilling single life for many years. However, when I hit 30, I decided that I needed to do more to put myself out there, and signed up for various online dating sites. I met more than a few frogs, but met some pretty good guys, too; however, things just didn't seem to click. Just when I was getting ready to take a break from dating again, I met a great guy online that I've been with for almost 3 years now. We live together and he's been super supportive about my surgery, but I have to admit that I'm a little scared reading some of the statistics about relationships post-weight loss. It's easy for me to say now, a week pre-op, that I'll never change, and he'll never change, and that we won't become a statistic, but I guess I really have no way of knowing what will happen. I guess we'll just take it a step at a time. For those of you who are still waiting to jump into the dating pool, go ahead, take a breath, be bold, and jump. Again, you can't win the lottery without buying a ticket

[krtrebie 35]

I'm single and 3.5 weeks post op. living in MN.

[Aaronmadeit 361]

Well things have changed 100% getting hit on rather then hitting on a woman is always nice

[Huntingnurse 510]

Well things have changed 100% getting hit on rather then hitting on a woman is always nice

Still waiting on that one

[TexasMiss 314]

Still waiting on that one

wow am I so out of practice you didnt realize I was flirting with you? lol

[taylorelizabeth13 5]

No longer "single and ready for a Pringle" haha! Due to be sleeved Aug 6! Too excited ????

I'm single and ready to start my new life! 21. WV!

[LG1981 111]

Still waiting on that one

Consider yourself hit on. You are a cute one!

[Huntingnurse 510]

Consider yourself hit on. You are a cute one!

And how YOU doin?