Spouse/Family Support

jttaurus · August 9, 2006

Donna,

Remeber it's ok not to tell anyone. What ever your comfort level is.

I found that negative people and responses were not something I could tolerate so I avoided them at all cost. My sister found out by accident because my daughter told her, otherwise I would have told her after the fact. I was proud of myself too because I didn't defend my decision I just told her out right why I was doing it.

Now, I applaud you and give a shout out for you t aking the first step and looking into the surgery. You should be proud of yourself.

Let me know if there's anything I can do.

Jennifer

dterenzi · August 9, 2006

Jennifer~

Like you I can't tolerate the negativaty, so I wont be telling anyone until the last minute or maybe even after the fact. Most of us know before going into WLS the pros and cons of it all, and we make our decisions based on what is best for us, and we proceed with the choice that we made for ourselfs. Mybe I'm wrong but there may just be a little bit of bitter sweet to the whole thing.

sunsett · August 10, 2006

I have been lucky and have not had any negativity. I kept it a secret for a while then when I had my 1 in a million problem I told everyone. I figured the more prayers the better. No one has ever said anything to me to make me feel bad. You may be suprised how positive people can be. I would just take it slow with who you tell.

Good luck to all of you. If I had to do this for a 3rd time I would do it in a heart beat!

dterenzi · August 10, 2006

Diane,

That's great that you have had no negitivity...I hope that when I decide to let everyone in on it I wont either.

Donna

wavydaby · August 10, 2006

Surprisingly, the only negativity I had is from a friend of mine who is overweight. And honestly, its not a great deal of negativity from her, but its this bizarre cloud that has brought to light just how much we have changed since we were buds in college.

bondgirl · August 16, 2006

You dont need negative forces around you at this place and time. Keep it away from you at all costs and make sure this is a decision that will make YOU happy, know one else! This is your body and you can do as you see fit. Yes Momma birthed you but she doesnt have the say in what you do with your body anymore. It is totally yours now! LOL Good luck and find that inner peace and know this is the right decision for you.

Angie