Dealing With Eating With The Family And Bad Manners Since Surgery

[Catracks 865]

God bless you Amanda. You are in a tough place.

"It is painfully obvious that when he does get upset about things that it is really just a reaction to me being upset and his upset doesn't come from his heart."

Oh I know this situation VERY well. You cannot teach a 17 year old, especially when nobody sees anything wrong.

[doggz109 41]

Your step daughter will be needing her own sleeve in a few years if she keeps going like that.

[Sleeved&Hopeful 182]

Wow, I am so sorry you are going through this! My kids and husband went out to eat with me a couple of times since surgery and I have to admit I am lucky. They have been curteous and realize I am going to take longer to eat. They haven't tried to eat my food. I let them know I'm going to box some up and take it home and save it for later. I don't blame you for not going out to eat with your family anymore. I hope you guys can get it sorted out. I don't know how I would deal with a husband who won't discipline his daughter. It is too hard for a stepparent to do the discipline unless you were there raising her from the time she was really little. I really wish you the best.

[Stephanie Kelley 11]

As a Mom with 3 kiddos I do have to say that I probably would have been kicked out of the restaurant if ANY of that happened to me.

You do not take food off of anyone's plate...PERIOD... unless it is OFFERED, if you do then you need to be stabbed by a fork...SERIOUSLY!

Your husband seems very insensitive...and not about the surgery, how much respect can he have for you if he lets ANYONE treat you in the way that he himself treats you and allows his child to treat you.

I am dealing a LOT with the food police. My younger ones were very worried about my health and while happy I got the sleeve, are very concerned that I would be hurt... so they are often quick to ask me if something I am eating is on my diet. I went ahead and posted it on the fridge for their reference so they would leave me alone

Whether sleeved or not NO ONE deserves to be disrespected. I think having low self esteem is common in people before WLS, and they let things slide that they normally wouldn't.