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I am interested in how this will play out as well. I have quite a few friends who have had some sort of weight loss surgery, with varying results. Also, I have some overweight friends who have not had surgery. I feel that being overweight, we look for acceptance in friends like ourselves and I fear that over time we will not have the condition of being overweight to bind us together. Kind of like we are leaving a very exclusive club.

I haven't been able to socialize too much lately and I don't work at the moment so much of my interaction is online (Facebook, email). Because of that, I don't know how these relationships will change in person when I reach my new normal. I do already feel less tolerant of food addiction behavior because I have lost most of my interest in food. What will the people at Facebook do now that I don't want to upload pictures of my every dinner?

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I had a friend who decided to get banded and she quit talking to me a few years ago. It was like she cut out her "overweight" friends. Makes me sad!

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Most of my friends are normal weight and so far they haven't said anything too negative about it. I haven't told any of them I had this surgery and I don't know if I ever will. I have only told 3 people. My BF,mom, and dad.

My family on the otherhand makes me wanna scream. My younger brother who is a jokester keeps telling me I am anorexic and that I need to eat something. He keeps telling me that I never eat. He is overweight and I am sure he is just jealous. Part of me gets mad and the other part of me is a little giddy that he notices I am losing LoL.

My mom and dad are both overweight and know I had VSG and they seem pretty supportive. Sometimes I can sense some jealousy from my mom, but she tends to always set up these competitions between the two of us for some reason. My Dad keeps telling me he is worried that I am going to lose too much weight. I tend to take everything overboard so it is a valid concern. I am not worried about it. I kind of want to get too skinny just to hear one person say it. I have never heard it and I wanna hear it once in my life LoL

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I haven't been sleeved yet but I'm interested to find out.I have two overweight friends, I barely see them so even if they were negative it wouldn't affect me if we didn't continue to be friends. At first one of them seemed like she would be jealous, trying to scare me out of it. I'm sure she would prefer we were both big. We shall see and I will keep you updated.

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They are monitoring me VERY CLOSELY! I guess to see if they want to be sleeved. I have an obese hater at my job...and she is very kind to me now but always looking at me out the corner of her eye. She is waiting for me to fail. We were doing a weight loss challenge last summer and she wouldn't let me b on her team :( ..But... I guess I am the winner now :) She is a big meanie but I try to get her to see that there is no reason to hate on me. Oh well, that wasn't even the question anymore lol. Sorry, guys!

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