I Want To Know What Changes You Have Experienced In Your Relationship With Your S/o

[Vance_ 217]

He is a guy after all and they are visual creatures.

Yep!!

[circa 333]

One thing that I can say is that things are getting better for the mostpart - 5 steps forward, 1 step back type of thing. With the surgery, my husband has seen incisions, etc. He knows I'm not capable of lifting things etc. With my previous illness, there were no scars, there were just limitations brought on by illness that he couldn't comprehend. This has led to me having a bit easier time of explaining things and him meeting some expectations of picking up some slack that I can't do yet. We laugh a lot more. He sticks his foot in his mouth a lot, but he's always done that - and its easier to let that go now, that's for sure.

Because I feel like I'm getting back to being my old self, he feels that too- and our relationship is getting better than it has been in years.

[bellabbr 50]

I been married for 10 years and pretty much the same weight for 10 years, dh loves me for who I am and my weight never really bothered him. Me feeling miserable about myself has, that is why he agreed to this surgery in the first place, because even though he didn't want me to do it or thought I need to do it, he knew how much it meant to me. But now we are fighting about it because I am loosing very slow 33 lbs in 3 months and with the doc telling me that is failure, that is making me very depressed, so now dh is regretting even agreeing to it in the first place because it hasn't brought me the happiness we all thought it would and I mentioned the other day I am going to look into switching to an RNY after a couple months if this doesn't work and he is even more mad and upset. So that has been the bad oh and the fact I have lost a lot of boob and bootie, which he loved lol.

[circa 333]

I been married for 10 years and pretty much the same weight for 10 years, dh loves me for who I am and my weight never really bothered him. Me feeling miserable about myself has, that is why he agreed to this surgery in the first place, because even though he didn't want me to do it or thought I need to do it, he knew how much it meant to me. But now we are fighting about it because I am loosing very slow 33 lbs in 3 months and with the doc telling me that is failure, that is making me very depressed, so now dh is regretting even agreeing to it in the first place because it hasn't brought me the happiness we all thought it would and I mentioned the other day I am going to look into switching to an RNY after a couple months if this doesn't work and he is even more mad and upset. So that has been the bad oh and the fact I have lost a lot of boob and bootie, which he loved lol.

let me ask you - how much weight were you losing each month before the sleeve? Right now, you're losing 11 lbs per month - that is NOT A FAILURE. Any loss is a success! Your doctor isn't a specialist on weight loss surgery so he doesn't have the right to tell you that you're failing - secondly, the only way to fail at wls surgery is to GAIN weight.

Your hubby needs a little talking to! Maybe you'd be able to lose faster if he werent' stressing you out, causing extra cortisol in your system!

[Catracks 865]

More sex. YAY!!!!

Seriously, I didn't feel into it. My husband always was, even at my heaviest. Now we are having some fun.

TMI?

I am also less "invisible" to others.