Mental Confusion

[mina 27]

Since this weight loss journey began, I had a goal of what size/weight i wanted to be. My goal is 154 and to wear a size 10. All along this journey people kept telling me not to lose anymore weight (advice given unsolicitated) and calling me skinny , so i feel I can't trust their opinions..

I still identify myself as a big girl eventhough logically I know I'm not anymore. I'm wearing a size 12 but they are fitting a little loose and I can wear some 10.. my weight have remained basically unchange for 3 months now, with a recent 2 lbs loss (I am now 168) honestly my eating habits have not been great. This weekend, I took a picture of me wearing a dress and I was like oh my god I am small but remember I don't feel small.. My issue is, should I still pursue the goal weight or say enough is enough but i know people tend to gain some weight back (which I am petrified of). The last time I had lost so much weight, I regained it back plus extra before i learn how to maintain it.

My emotions are up and down, one minute I'm feeling good about the weight loss, next I feel fat (because i still have the bad habits that landed me in the fatland) and then fear of regain.

[Lissa 2,631]

Mina, Only you can decide what the final goal weight should be, but you may want to listen to those who are telling you that you have lost enough. I don't normally advocate listening to others on what is a personal, private decision, but you said that you don't "see" that you're small, except in a picture. Are you healthy and fit at the current weight? If so, it might be time for you to start maintaining instead of working on losing.

If I remember correctly, even Lil Miss Diva is in the 160-170 range, and I think she's a huge success with her surgery. I'm not suggesting you judge yourself by someone else, but it was eye-opening to me because I would estimate from Irene's pictures that she weighs much less than 160.

[mina 27]

thanks for the advice.. I know i shouldn't be so obsessed on a number but on how I look overall. I guess since i never really learn how to maintain my weight loss, I feel like I will start gaining again.. I will focus on working out and eating as healthy as possible and see what happen

[circa 333]

You truly can only decide if you should keep on to your original goal. One thing that I heard suggested to help with the body image issue is, for each mini goal that you reach, take pictures of yourself from all angles. put those pictures up around the mirror you look in. Compare what you see to the pictures. Pictures don't lie, mirrors do.