Whats up with me

[Wheetsin 714]

He has another patient who stopped hers after she was banded then got really depressed over the foods she could no longer eat. I don't know how much this story will help others here or not...

Excellent advice! Truly. It's kind of like your post-op pain medicine, to draw an analogy. My advice/philosophy - Take it whether you think you need it or not, because if you don't take it, it's going to be too late if you end up needing it... you're already going to be hurting.

[CLOE 0]

Wow, I cannot begin to tell you how much you all have touched my heart. I was literally crying while reading all your posts. I cannot believe the response I recieved with the PM's too, I'm overwhelmed. It's so nice to be able to talk to those who actually KNOW what your feeling. I hope you all don't think that I'm really a negative person, mostly I'm the opposite. But there I go again "addictive, all-or-nothing" personality. Either up or down, hungry or full, happy or sad......................Alas, I think, what I'm getting out of all this is to find a happy medium, right? Allow myself to be a little sad or a little hungry etc... I think you guys hit the nail on the head( as if I had any doubt), because when I told my husband a few months back about the band, these were his words. "Don't do this for me, but if it's something you would like, do it.........then he said, what if you end up needing to go to the casino again?" Thats what your talking about too, right? But how do I know something is addictive? I know I cannot go to the casino without risking gambleling again. And howcome I havent been an alcoholic? or a drug addict?

Anyway, too ALL of you guys who posted, I thank-you, I came home from town, sat down at my copmuter and was amazed, I feel soo lucky to be able to talk to you all.

Only one thing left to say- TAMMY, YOUR A SIZE 8!!!! WOW, you must feel great!!

[jude048 0]

Chloe,

I have no great insight or advice other than to say - hang in there! Each day is a NEW day and NEW chance to do a NEW thing! I honestly think this journey has got to be ONE day at a time!

You have proved by past actions that you are an extrememly strong person! This battle will be won also! You can do it!

jude

PS: The ticker is a lie!

[CLOE 0]

Hey Guys, I just wanted to thank everyone for there encouragement and strength. I am feeling way better the last few days, and feeling like I'm back on my game plan again. I hope you all don't feel like I'm being a whiner, I just promised myself that this band was going to be IT. That, I was going to do this different. That I would ask for help, when I need it, be an open book, and not pretend that I know it all, or that I don't have anything wrong. But that I can still be strong!! You guys got me over the hump. Maybe a few more to come, but I'll worry about them when or if they get here. From the bottom of my heart, Thank-you!

[gjray 0]

Yes, Yes, I understand where you are! I sabotage myself too. I have been 'craving food' so I have been eating. The difference is what I eat. I am in a psuedo-depressed state and I have had a hard time facing some of the 'real issues'. Try individual/group counseling, a girlfriend/confidente, a spiritual advisor or just try meditation. The last one works good for me. This is when I turn off (tune out) the noises (put the kids to bed at 7:30; they don't have to go to sleep, this is quiet time for the whole family) and just think. Think about the good (yes there is always good) the bad and the ugly (figuratively). I had an epiphany just the other night and it hit me like a 'ton of bricks'. It relieved some anxiety, open up some really old wounds but it caused me to lose my appetite (at least for a couple of day). I'm still reeling from it. I am taking baby steps to address my issues because as a therapist once said, "you didn't get here in a day". I'm not there yet, but then "God isn't through with me yet". :scared:

Banded 06/30/06

230/band wt-218/202 today

[mousecrazy 2]

Chloe, I just now read all these posts, and you have received a lot of great in sight and advice. I am posting because I wanted to add something that hasn't aleady been posted here.

First, a few days of eating too much or the wrong things isn't that weird in the "normal" world, is it? So if it's a few days, try not to let it scare you, and see it as a normal ebb and flow in life. Then, it won't cause such anxiety and worry. If it goes on longer, then it might be sabotage.

Second, since emotional eating is by nature "self-centered", one way to combat it is to replace it with something NOT self-centered. Like Wheetsin so perfectly illustrated, I'm not suggesting hopping addictions...that's trading one for another...but instead of turning inward, go outward....one way that has helped me in the past is to get up, close the Cheeto bag, and call a friend who needs some encouragement, get on LBT and try to help someone, DO SOMETHING for someone. I know it's cliche now, but random acts of kindness have a lot of power, not just for the receiver, but the giver, as well.

You are quite courageous to open this discussion, and please just take my input for what it's worth to you....no offense if you don't like it, really.

Hugs, Cindy

[kimmason 0]

cloe

i admire you, I have no idea how you not only beat one but now three addictions pretty much and the fact that you are idientifying this is phenomenal. This place for me is a safe place to fall as the ol dr phil says, and honestly if it wasn;t for you, argon, yoda, jude et al, I would be running off in the other directionand open up shitloads of cheesies and go back into my hole. I have lived like this most of my life as long as I can remember with food, why I have no clue, but you guys share a struggle that no one but myself that i know of persoanlly has had ,(that I knew of )for years. My family are all slender and shorter so I have felt entirely like I live on another planet. Thank you to you and all for being here with me.

[CLOE 0]

Kim, yes your right, it is a safe place to fall. It's great to be able to go somewhere, were for once, people truly understand. :scared:

I'm not playing this food game ANYMORE, I'm sick of it! I have many more wars to fight, but I'll win. (I'll win because I will, and because I have a great support team, YOU GUYS)!!!!!!

[kimmason 0]

I never thought of eating too much as self centred I mean yes I am doing it, but I think I have given away myself to my kids, my work, my partner and honeslty i hardly think of myself......the eating is maybe a coping thing?/ I dunno. But this lap band that i am going to have THAt is the first time i am looking after me, so call that self centred I guess but deservedly so.

[Yoda 0]

Cloe: so glad u are over this hump and moving forward with your game plan!! Yup, we'll be here when (if) you reach the next hump. I like what was said earlier too....all part of the ebb and flow of life...these humps!! Hey, keeps it interesting!

[argon 3]

Group hug, guys??!!

:scared:

Awwwwwww..........

[Yoda 0]

u been watchin' too much Dr. Phil, Mandi!

[argon 3]

Ahh... if I was pullin' out the old Dr. Phil, I'd pull my chair right up to yours, look you in the eye, and tell you what I really think! *BAM!*

LOL :scared:

[anillacookie 0]

Sabbotage its a real thing.:cry ....I have been battling it all summer. In May I reached my first weight goal sinece surgury. An all of a sudden I went crazy with food.:hungry: .......I have yoyoed 7lbs all summer. it is insane.

I think it is because I feel safe being fat. and now people are noticing me because I have lost some lbs It is kind of scary. Still strugling with it.:think

[CLOE 0]

it's not easy, keep going.

what helped me, among alot of things, was I just got really mad, enough was enough!!:scared:

please remeind me of what I said, next time I fall in a hole, K?