August Chat

[ReneBean 3]

Hey Folks...

I was able to stop long enough to eat lunch today, so I thought I would check in. It's so much quicker

[ReneBean 3]

Hey Folks...

I was able to stop long enough to eat lunch today, so I thought I would check in. It's so much quicker to

[ReneBean 3]

Hey Folks...

I was able to stop long enough to eat lunch today, so I thought I would check in. It's so much quicker to keep

[ReneBean 3]

Hey Folks...

I was able to stop long enough to eat lunch today, so I thought I would check in. It's so much quicker to keep up

[ReneBean 3]

Oh my. Can you say TECHNICAL PROBLEMS? Sorry about that!

Here is the rest....

I was able to stop long enough to eat lunch today, so I thought I would check in. It's so much quicker to keep up than to catch up - I am sure you all know what I mean.

Kat - I call that particular form of exercise "Abdominal Work" and if it wasn't for that, I would be getting NO exercise at all. Cool idea on the heart things.

Betty - Honey take care of that foot - whatever happens...It sounds like you need to win the lottery, too. I am so tired of this whole "work" business... All I want for Christmas is the $211 million dollar winning lottery ticket! :]

Eileenie... the only BAD thing about not coming back to NY this month is that I won't get to sneak in a 2nd lunch with YOU. :] Oh well, I guess I will have to wait til next month. Shoes - it's all about the shoes - but I suppose I could be convinced to buy at least one purse... :]

Allison - Hi and Welcome!! Congrats on your new band and the 24 pounds! Are you still on Mushies? Or have you moved on to real food? Having nothing to do sounds pretty good to me, right now... Tell us a little about you? Where are you from? What do you do - you know... give us all the 411.

Well, I have to get back to the huge pile on my desk.

TTL!!

Irene

[Dutchgrl59 2]

Good Afternoon ladies,

I need help........ please advise. :help: :help: :help:

I have a friend who is having an affair and her endless stories of the boyfriend, her shopping binges and late nights have got me all crazy. I So want to be a good friend but why me? I am a card carrying Christian and shes told me she doesn't like to be preached to then why oh why does she want to hang with me? On Sunday she was going stir crazy with her husband in the house and begged to come to my house, spend the night and take a walk on the beach. I said come on over. We went to dinner, stayed at the beach a tiny bit(it got cold) and when we got in the house she called the boyfriend. Then she annouces that it would be easier to stay with him and left. I feel used and have told her point blank that she needs to do something about her situation. She knows I don't like adultery and have watched her weight soar in the 10 months since she met this guy. When she calls I don't get to talk because it's all about her and her troubles(funny, I thought having a hot affair would solve everything!) since I hate confrontation I have stopped picking up the phone for the last 24hrs. This gal is really sweet and she is one of my Disney buddies so just drop kicking her into the ocean wouldn't be nice. How do I tell her we can't continue the relationship while she remains in her unhealthy lifestyle. Should I just invite her to church? My best friend lynne says that she seeks out my friendship because she craves the very thing she does not have..... Jesus. I would love to plant a seed, her heart and life is so empty. My passive/agressive phone behavior is because I just don't know what to do anymore and I need to concentrate on my health issues and parenting my kids. Am I being selfish? Thanks guys. :phanvan

Welcome to Allison, please inform us about your new life since getting the band. I have not gotten my yet. Hugs

[mousecrazy 2]

Patty,

Well, I've kinda got the same thing going on with a friend of mine...I want her to be able to talk to me, because I try to keep coming with the ethical side of things. BUT, and it's a big BUT...I would draw the line on being her "cover." That is just not right. She is using you...you don't "feel" used, you ARE being used. And, then, if it goes to court, guess who will be supoened? Won't that be fun? You get my drift. I'd put a stop to that game pronto. Since you are friends, even though she's not treating you much like one right now, you can simply tell her that she has her own decisions to make about her family and marriage (God, I hope there are no kids). But when it comes to using you, that will have to stop now. She has put you in this position, and don't let her turn that around on you.

I know you want to help her, so remind her about the consequences this behavior could possibly have. If she is unhappy in her marriage, there are many solutions to that besides infidelity, which isn't a known positive or effective solution, is it?

Dang, what a mess.

Good luck! Stay strong.

[Dutchgrl59 2]

Thanks Cindy,

Question: how do I tell my friend that I want her to stop using me? I bet she doesn't view her behavior as a problem. Then it turns into cursing and a dead phone.

I'm gonna sleep on this for the moment and tomorrow is another day.

Night night.

[SherryW 4]

Patty you can tell her by saying You love her, you care about her but, because of those things you can't sit by while she leaves your house when her husband thinks she's there. You'll remain friends, you listen to her but, you don't feel comfortable living her lie. If she gets ticked off because you're being truthful...then honestly she's not as good a friend. She should know, knowing you and your religious and person beliefs, that you wouldn't go for this and she using her for her own lies. Making you uncomfortable is not being a good friend. Sorry you're going through this.

Note: Fill seems to be ok today but, I did get quite hungry. I can't help worrying about how much is in my band...where did it go

[nightingale2u 42]

Morning All...

Kat... Before I forget... I didn't mean to ignore your question about my hubby's kids... just forgot to address it! They don't give me a hard time at all... but I really like them and I get the distinct feeling that they are uncomfortable when they come here. Let's face it... they spent 20 some years of their life here with their father and mother... I'd feel wierd if I were them. That's awesome what you did for your hubby's nurses! I would have just cried if any patient or family member had ever done that for me when I was working on the floor! Sorry about your sciatic pain... that type of pain put a muscle spasm to shame! Hope you are feeling better!

Patty... OMIGOSH... I had a friend that I went through nursing school with that went wild when her long term relationship broke up. She was sleeping with a male nurse that was married with 2yr old twins at home. She was also sleeping with him AT and IN the hospital! SHe was like an addict... risking her job... her friendships... and her own children... it was nuts! Then... that relationship broke up and she went on to ANOTHER married man that happened to be her best friends husband! I was a new mother and wife and I just couldn't listen to all that she was involved with... our friendship never recovered. SHe finally did settle down and get married... I keep waiting for the email crying that some young thang is trying to steal HER hubby away. Good luck... and handle in a way that feels right in your heart. It sounds like the world is revolving around her right at the moment and she is not considering any other person but herself. I'm with Cindy... I sure hope children aren't involved! Honestly Patty... if she is cursing at you on the phone... she may just not be a very nice person please don't take that type of abuse.

Sherry... Glad the fill is feeling okay... and according to my surgeon it is not unusual not to be able to extract all of the Fluid from the band that was put in. It always seemed to depend on the position I was in... sometimes they got close to what had been put in... and sometimes they would only get 2/3 of what they put in? If you have restriction that stays with you... I wouldn't worry.

Beanie... LOL... I thought... holy shmoley... look at that girl post! Hope that huge pile on your desk shrunk a little bit by the end of the day! Congrats on your first PB... I hate ta tell ya... but it's not just the first time that only hurts with those! Yay... it's almost time for you to have fun with the grandbabies!

Eileen... Girl.. I hear ya on the hungry thing... I sure wish the band had taken the hunger pangs away like it does for some. *pout* Oh well! I graze on a meal too... sometimes I get 3 bites down... then I circle my food like a buzzard waiting for the bites to finally go down...lol. Sheesh... i should have known that I would eventually do this kind of thing! THe problem is... the three bites are stuck... and I am still hungry in my lower stomach growling and all!

Dianne... That is so swesome about the Mrs. H comment and the jean skirt episode! YAY!!!! I'm really happy for you girl! The ice cream social sounds like it will be a blast... can't wait to hear all about it!

Betty... Dang... that foot is a real booger isn't it! I sure hope they figure out how to fix it soon! If I were to lay down flat on my back... I would never be able to get up again!...LOL.

Cindy... I'm glad your class is so nice and quiet so that you can come and play with us!

Welcome Allison!

Gotta go! (((Hugs)))

[NJChick 3]

Hi Girls,

I can't play today but I promise I will read up either tonight or tomorrow morning... shoot ~~~~

Luv yah's

[NatesMommy 0]

I know this isnt my place to jump in here but to me it sounds like she is using you as an exscuse to get out and see the new boy toy. I think that you shouldnt neccesaraly dump her but I would tell her how you feel. I think that it would be really swwet of you to invite her to church but I am not too sure that she would go. Dont compramise your values by letting her use you as a scape goat in this. But when it all comes crashing down around her im sure she is going to need a friend , someones shoulder to lean on .

[NatesMommy 0]

Patty ,

Then it turns into cursing and a dead phone.

This is not a TRUE friend

[NatesMommy 0]

Well I would just like to say to EVERYONE thanks for such the warm welcome. Just to tell you guys a little about me I am from Southern California and I am 25. I am a single mother, I have an 8 month old boy at home. I have struggled with weight since I was about 9 yrs old. And since having Nate my body just went downhill. I decided to get the band and try to get my body back while Im young enough to do it. I guess I am just tired of being fat. point blank. I gained about 40 pounds throuought my pregnancy bringing me to a grand total of 329 ( I CANT BELIVE IT EITHER) So I got on the scale today and I am at 305 almost back in the 200's The surgery went well. I was a self pay, I had it done in mexico.

I had it done on a friday and I was back to work that monday. I dont have much resriction now becuase I havent had a fill yet but i am eating small portions and walking every night. Once again I thank everyone for the warm welcome and I look forward to knowing you all better!

Much Love

[mousecrazy 2]

HI ALLISON! (Natesmommy)...I feel bad I haven't said hi sooner, so I said it louder! LOL! Welcome to our most fabulous group!

Darcy, I loved reading your long and newsy post...I so enjoy "listening" to you!

Beanie, and you! It's great to see you so often, now! Keep it up!

Patty, hope you are feeling more calm, and looks like you've got a consensus on here with us...we just don't want you being mistreated, cuz we love you, girl.

Eileen, I see you out there! It's hard to play when people are looking over your shoulder...right now, my kids are reading or writing, so I've got a minute. The principal isn't here (don't even ask!), so I don't have to quick minimize the LBT screen when the door opens! LOL!

Sherry, I'm glad the fill is feeling okay...try not worry about the "missing" fill...I think these thing fluctuate, depending on if you are standing or lying down...just go with how it feels right now. Are you able to eat solid Protein, even if it is slow and small bites? Darcy reminded me...it is so frustrating sometimes after 3 bites, when you feel hungry, but know you can't eat any more! I'm accepting that better now than I would have when I was a newbie. Oh yeah...just wanted to ask you about T.O.M (I am using his initials so if someone searches they won't pull this up)...a person who posted on our Christmas thread and also posts some really disturbing stuff (IMHO) on other threads....I just decided to ignore his Christmas post, did you understand what I was doing? I don't want to give him any more attention than he is already getting, so I just posted again about shopping and stuff. If this doesn't make sense, just PM me, and I'll explain more.

As an aside, do you think the people who say that communism and socialism are "refreshing" have ever lived in a communist/socialist country? I work with a lady who left communist Romania to come to the US, and her description of it does not sound at all refreshing.

Anyhoooooooo....I swear that ol' soapbox keeps finding me.

Happy Friday to all!