Help Desired, Please

[peacequeen 434]

That is wonderful news! So glad things are working out.

[Bubbaloo10 55]

Kathy, As one who suffers from chronic depression since my own divorce 17 years ago, I can recognize Bill's symptoms as I was just like him. I've been taking an antidepressant since 1995 and will have to all my life. Believe me, I'm a nice guy now, but without them I'm a real jerk. It's brain chemistry. Get him to a psychiatrist who will put him on antidepressants. You will both see and feel a marked improvement in a matter of a couple weeks (took me 7 days exactly and it was like someone turned a light on.) He may resist going to a psychiatrist, thinking that's for crazy people. Assure him that's not the case. He needs medication. He wouldn't be resistant to taking insulin if he needed it would he? Besides (tongue in cheek) if people think you're crazy they won't mess with you......Kudos to you for taking a stand against divorce. Marriage is grand, but divorce is 100 grand...Good luck

[WhoozisAnyway 176]

Kathy, I completely recognized the issues you discussed. Several years ago my husband had a mid-life crisis related bout of depression. We moved cross country, he couldn't find a job, I lost a bunch of weight, and I ended up with a grouchy, irritable blob on the couch who only vaguely resembled my wonderful husband. It was the biggest crisis of our marriage. After about six months of that mess, he finally found a decent job and managed to pull himself back together. We were very lucky.

I think the other posters are exactly right with their advice and your plan of action is sound. I just wanted to tell you that it is recoverable and you will probably end up even closer than you were before. Hang in there, and good luck!