My Fiance Works With A Fat-Hating Numbskull

[BlackBerryJuice 349]

GAWD, so tired of overhearing this guy's crap. This is a family firm and my fiance will buy in before the end of the year once the patriarch retires, so it'll be just him and this guy. First off, a while ago my fiance told me that the he suggested this guy go out on a date with my fiance's former coworker who apparently had the hots for him. The guy's response? "I can't go out with someone THAT fat, everybody will make fun of me." Chick's like 40 pounds lighter than me at my heaviest, maybe like a size 10-12? That was only a few months after my surgery, and this guy knows I had surgery, so it was totally inconsiderate - and, considering some other comments he made about women before my boyfriend and I got engaged and he finally realized we were serious and shut up - probably a passive-aggressive indirect jab at me.

Then they were recently looking for a new admin person and it was pretty hard to find someone who was good and yet would be content with this type of job in the long haul. They went through like 200 resumes and interviewed like 5 people the first day. My fiance said one lady was a cut above all the other interviewees and that he felt that she'd be the best hire, but then he told me the other guy didn't want to hire her. Reasoning? "I don't want to hire a fat person." I asked just how big this woman was and she's probably just about my size pre-surgery (I looked up her pic on Facebook, too, to see for myself). She's also had several kids! I wanna see what this dickwad would look like if he popped out like 3 kids.

Anyway, they interviewed like twenty more people, wasting a ton of their own time and these other women's time just because this bonehead doesn't like "fatties." In the end, that woman did end up getting hired because she was still better than everyone else.

GOD, I can't STAND this guy, but it looks like he's gonna be in my life for the long haul since my SO is buying into the business.

[AliveAgain 283]

Discrimination and hatred of fat, obese, overweight (whatever you want to call it) is extremely rampant. I really wish they would add it as a criteria to the Disabilities Act. I was FIRED from my last job for being overweight. No I'm not being dramatic -- I have physical WRITTEN proof that my boss' boss did not think I "fit in with the look and feel" of the rest of the team. Granted, it was with an athletic-centered company. I used to be very athletic pre-accident/injury and weight gain, so a majory of my resume speaks to working in that industry. But since most people have known me for 10-15+ years, they knew who I used to be, who I am on the inside, and generally never bothered them. It was the best job I'd had in years, I was so happy. Then they hired this jack*** who had a real problem with not just weight but women in general who were of "childbearing years." It was a bloodbath how many good people he got fired. However, this story has a happy ending: His *** was FIRED for being a disappointment just a few weeks ago. He barely lasted 8 months with the company!!

Also, I've had to unfriend a number of people on FB because they will make frequent posts poking fun at overweight people. Do not need that in my life!! I honestly feel really sad for them and feel like it's their own fears or worries to not love themselves if they ever got above 20BMI. I had a boyfriend about 10 years ago when I was 140lbs and our relationship started online. I NEVER lied about my weight, showed recent pics, etc. but he always talked about how he was concerned about a woman "gaining weight after marriage and having kids." Red flad #1. When we finally met, his face showed his disappointment. Mind you, I was very athletic and very large chested. A majority of that weight was in my legs (cyclist) and in my bra. Yet, he seemed to think I needed to be about 110lbs. That's what his former girlfriend was. Granted that relationship sunk faster than the Titanic and I have THE WORLD'S BEST HUSBAND now!

Just like there are racists, sexists, etc. - there are these people. Just pray for them and hope they'll find a way to cope with being perpetually disappointed. I wish your fiance could let him know people can SUE and WIN for that type of discrimination, so he should watch his back!

[BunnyLove 28]

This reminds me of the old quip "I can lose weight, but you'll always be (stupid, etc.)". You're better than this guy. I have some bigots in my family and can't ditch them because they're family, but I only have to see them a few times a year. It's rough, but when it's for the greater good, like your fiance's business, you just have to take the high road and know that the idiot partner's views are going to be his undoing one day. And hey! Since you'll be there, you'll get to see it when he's tripped up!