Hubby Doesnt Understand

[gramaof4 58]

I have a huge support system, that does not include him....I have 2 besties who are great and another sleeve sister from another month and 3 sleeve sisters from same day! I use this forum as a major source of information, support, and knowledge. I swim 3 X a week and walk the other 4. I have gained so much energy from the weight loss of 75#, my knees don't hurt, my back doesn't hurt...and I am going crazy redoing my dining room and living room.

And it never fails when we get company or have just gone to Ranch and Home supply store or grocery store that there isn't at least one person that with exclamation asstounds how awesome I look and that I am just glowing....It is great inspiration for me and he has to have some acknowledgement of my weight loss, though he has not uttered one word in praise or encouragement.

I have overcome the wishful thinking he will one day he will too acknowledge that I am losing wight and that I do look alot better and more healthy than I have in years!

I love my friends, family, and community who do support me openly in public and in private....some people don't know how to approach the fact that I have shrunk #75 but you can see it on their faces...."do I say something or not"

[Netgallegos 19]

Grandmaof4. You are doing so great. Good for you.

[mommyinneed 25]

I didn't want to be seen and I also cared what others thought. My fiancé use to get so angry with me. He loved me that way and so should everyone else. He did not understand that I didn't feel good enough and that I was always being judged. My ex is verbally abusive and that started getting to me as well. I am 12 days out and down 21 lbs. It's amazing how much this has helped my self esteem! You are makin the first decision towards a happier life and even with my complications I would do it all again!

[mommyinneed 25]

I didn't want to be seen and I also cared what others thought. My fiancé use to get so angry with me. He loved me that way and so should everyone else. He did not understand that I didn't feel good enough and that I was always being judged. My ex is verbally abusive and that started getting to me as well. I am 12 days out and down 21 lbs. It's amazing how much this has helped my self esteem! You are makin the first decision towards a happier life and even with my complications I would do it all again!

[RobbieNow 7]

I have never been married, so I offer no advice on spouses, but it seems to me that it is so helpful for sleevers to have their own forums, perhaps it would be helpful to create a forum just for spouses where they could talk to others of their own kind and express opinions, yay or nea or just confused. They could get feedback from others in similar situations and not worry about being considered un sympathetic or clueless. I have not read everything on the board yet, is there such a forum? Diva, you are a moderator, just a thought from a single pre-sleever.

Robbe