"....you Look Fine"

[RawrrAshleex3 137]

"why do you need to lose weight?" "you look great!" :icon_bs:

Ok freal, Im 2 of you. Shut up already and stop trying to flatter me. Does this irk anyone else? I cant be the only person to get this when I break the news :frusty:

[blackanese25 160]

yup... and my new favorite... " i hope your not gonna get tooo skinny?!"

really first i was too fat.. so now please tell me WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE YOU HAPPY?

cuz thats why i went into have this surgery... to make you happy (in my most sarcastic voice)

[ladymacwhiz 42]

I didn't tell anyone about my surgery until the weekend before my surgery.I just didn't want to here any negative talk..especially from family..My husband and my daughter were the only ones that knew...It was my journey .

[circa 333]

"Its not about how I look, its about how I feel" Neither being too fat nor being too skinny is healthy.

The other line is "how about you let me worry about that. I'm sure you have enough of your own personal issues that need attention"

[Tif 2.0 141]

I've been pretty open with everyone including people I work with regarding the surgery. It doesn't bother me, but the two people who at first who were the most unsupportive were my parents. My dad thinks I just need to go on ANOTHER diet like my sister did. My mom just talks about how the people she knew that had bypass gained their weight back.

I told my mom, first of all, not having bypass. Second of all, I'm not other people, I'm me. Third of all, if my body allowed more than 65 lbs of weightloss, I could've done it YEARS ago, but thanks to PCOS I hit 65 lbs and my body says "No, thanks, I'm gonna hold on to the rest of this fat."

[JMarshall 352]

yea i heard those too " you not that big man" or " just try to diet and exercise" and the worst " i heard of people that gain all the weight back after surgery" . bottom line is that the only people that understand being overweight is overweight people. my decisions for surgery was based on feeling better. not really worried about my looks.

[thinoneday 445]

Some people really suck at compliments huh? I totally agree with circa's response! I'm exactly like that as well and that comment is definately something that I would say.! Love it! I got to goal and surpassed it, now that people have gotten used to the "thinner" me, now I hear stuff like "your gaining weight on your butt" " are you still losing?" Gosh give it up already. . . I'm not gaining and I'm not losing. . . heavens can't people just shut up and leave me alone!

[emily_0192010 168]

I recently moved to NY after being home (in jax, fl) for a couple years. No one had seen me after surgery until I hit the four month mark. At this point i've lost 90 lbs... all of my friends were super supportive and very surprised (they didn't and don't know about my surgery). BUT, i've had a couple of family members being like "i don't remember you being a different size". That one sucks big time. I am literally half the size I was (went from a 24 to 12) and I look the same? Thanks.

I'm not sure why people say the things they do, but at this point I just brush it off. I know I made the right decision for me and I don't regret anything. If I get to the point where I am "too skinny" in their opinions, then at least I can claim my health and happiness.

[Vance_ 217]

Well, I don't think anyone is trying to hurt any feelings, but only trying to lift you up. Take it for what it's worth and enjoy the fact that "You look great!" "Thank you, that's sweet."

[RawrrAshleex3 137]

I do say thank you, and I know theyre trying to be supportive because I guess maybe they think its a big jump to take Im just tired of hearing it. And Im right up there with Blackanese, Im totally there with you. My grandmom and my mom are always talking about my weight and how I need to lose.. Walking into the mall to buy clothes for my christmas present my mom had the nerve to turn around and tell me "You know, you really need to do something with your weight". Broke the news right then and there... Then it turned into "why do you need to get surgery to lose weight" and now its "you better watch how much weight you lose!" Make up your minds people! lol

Oh, cant forget the "Are you sure youre going to keep up with it after?" Well duh, dont really have a choice at that point. That would completely contradict everything Im aiming for.

Although I am getting support from places I didnt think Id get, like work! (:

[blackanese25 160]

I do say thank you, and I know theyre trying to be supportive because I guess maybe they think its a big jump to take Im just tired of hearing it. And Im right up there with Blackanese, Im totally there with you. My grandmom and my mom are always talking about my weight and how I need to lose.. Walking into the mall to buy clothes for my christmas present my mom had the nerve to turn around and tell me "You know, you really need to do something with your weight". Broke the news right then and there... Then it turned into "why do you need to get surgery to lose weight" and now its "you better watch how much weight you lose!" Make up your minds people! lol

Oh, cant forget the "Are you sure youre going to keep up with it after?" Well duh, dont really have a choice at that point. That would completely contradict everything Im aiming for.

Although I am getting support from places I didnt think Id get, like work! (:

ANR--- i about pissed my pants i was laughing so hard ... it funny, people think and let me say that again THINK they are being polite when really its a polite way of saying something rude.. lol. IMO

and i think you are right they dont have a clue what we are going thru and probably never will and i assure you that i didn't do any of it for YOU!.. i DID IT FOR ME!

I love my mother dearly, but i swear if its not one thing its another.. and as long as i keep trying to satisfy HER... I WILL NEVER SATISFY ME!

[sleeve 4 me 910]

I was told that allllllll the time. I was always told why? your a lite weight, you don't need this! blah, blah, blah...obesity kills period! And it will catch up sooner or later. I was obese over a decade and just found out after losing all my weight and now having a normal BMI that I have atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries). It's not about how one looks or what size one is, it's about our health, and what fat does to the body. Maybe you can tell them that!

[circa 333]

I love the "why don't you try diet and exercise?" OMG! You found it! The whole idea eluded me until you JUST BROUGHT IT UP! Why oh WHY didn't I think of doing that?! Genius. Pure genius.

[mesaucedo 207]

I know how you feel!! My mom is this tiny 5 foot 98 pound woman with huge boobs and hair! I, on the other hand, am 5'6" and about 2 and a half times her weight! She always said stuff like "Your arms are so saggy, why don't you lift weights while you do your hw or watch tv?" "Why don't you just stop eating so much?", "I worked out and got fit, why can't you?" As soon as I mentioned the VSG all I have been hearing is: "You better not get smaller than me!" "I think you should stop at a 12" "You would look weird thin" "Are you sure you want to do this?"

I love my mum - but it is like never ending nagging! Geez. :/

I do say thank you, and I know theyre trying to be supportive because I guess maybe they think its a big jump to take Im just tired of hearing it. And Im right up there with Blackanese, Im totally there with you. My grandmom and my mom are always talking about my weight and how I need to lose.. Walking into the mall to buy clothes for my christmas present my mom had the nerve to turn around and tell me "You know, you really need to do something with your weight". Broke the news right then and there... Then it turned into "why do you need to get surgery to lose weight" and now its "you better watch how much weight you lose!" Make up your minds people! lol

Oh, cant forget the "Are you sure youre going to keep up with it after?" Well duh, dont really have a choice at that point. That would completely contradict everything Im aiming for.

Although I am getting support from places I didnt think Id get, like work! (:

[RawrrAshleex3 137]

Lol same thing here!!!!! Except moms a little overweight and my grandmother is bigger than me!