I Disagree With You But...

[Amanda 3.0 140]

You are saying that he says he supports what makes you happy. If it were me, I would accept that as good enough (unless you don't believe him and you think he is going to nag). I don't think people have to agree 100% to be supportive. He supports you and he may or may not come around later. I'm sure he is just worried about his kid.

[Catracks 865]

I just told the ladies in my choir about my surgery because when I walked in they were dumbfounded at the change in me after only 3 weeks. They said the surgury took 10 years off me. They said they were proud of me for enduring the surgery in order to better my health.

My mother has the same hangup your dad does, only worse. She won't even back down in the face of obvious evidence.

[PdxMan 4,292]

Also, explain that you are not having your stomach removed, just reduced. Once fully recovered, you will still be able to eat and carry on life as you did pre-VSG, just with more controlled portions. The surgery is merely a tool to help us live a healthier lifestyle.

Stomach, still there and functional.

Pyloric valve, still there and functional.

No re-routing of intestines or anything. It is all there just as it was before.

[sleeve 4 me 910]

Tell your dad that there are a lot of us who wish we had the surgery at a young age like you. I wasted so many years being miserable because I was fat.

Toooootally! I would have had it done at 29, LOL!!!!

[sleeve 4 me 910]

Just told my dad that I finally have a surgery date - (APRIL 2nd whoo hooo) - and his response was "oh, you're actually going to do it?"

wow.

He said he didn't agree with what I was doing, but he'd support whatever makes me happy. His whole argument is why permanently change something in your body that's part of a system you use every day? It's not like removing tonsils or a gallbladder that you don't need, but part of a vital organ that you use all the time.

I get it. he's concerned. I just don't want to get into a back and forth with him, or any of my family for that matter, but I feel like I could use some helpful soundbites that worked for anyone else as they were telling friends and family they were going through with VSG.

Any suggestions?

thanks =)

I notice you are in SO CAL...Come to one of our meetings so you can both meet us in person and hear all of our stories. He can also ask questions as well. We have one gal that is 22 years old in our group and should will be sleeved very soon. Let me know and I will send you an invite

[sleeve 4 me 910]

Oops I thought you were in NORCO, CA LOL LOL LOL! I swear, I need to wear my glasses LOL! I'm in denial.

[BABEwiththePOWER 16]

Ha! No worries! I'm sure there are great groups up here too, I just haven't joined any yet =) Seriously though, this site is the MOST valuable tool. I feel like people are really honest and open here, so it's been a HUGE help.

[christin 54]

My Dad also tried to talk me out of surgery. I told him that I loved him, but that I was not asking for his permission. I was only asking for his support.

Today, now that I am 10 days out of surgery and seem to be recovering perfectly, he called and told me how happy he is for me etc.

It became clear to me today that he was just worried about the surgery and me coming through it ok.

[BABEwiththePOWER 16]

christin, thanks for the feedback. I'm sure my dad is in the same boat - just nervous about coming through the procedure ok. I know that when I am healthy, happy, thin, and fit, that will show him it was the best thing for me, and he'll be on board.

best of luck on your recovery and the awesome journey ahead =)