Anyone Ever Lost Friends After Knowing You Were Getting The Surgery?

[Lissa 2,631]

The fallout keeps coming for me. My (almost) sister in law has been mad at me for over a month. Apparently when I invited my brother to the family reunion that was held in July, I didn't invite SIL and her kids separately. We live in FL and the reunion was held in KY. I assumed that my brother would invite her himself if he wanted her to go to the reunion with him. Turns out he didnt' come anyway, but she texted me a few days before the reunion to tell me how angry she was at me over my "not inviting" her to the reunion. After rolling my eyes, I told her what was stated above. She told me that I didn't have to be rude about it and I just said Oh Well to the whole deal, figuring it was neurotic crap.

Fast forward to tonight, over a month later, and she sent me another text message about how rude and nasty I am and how no one wants to read my WLS updates, or about my diet or exercise, so she's deleted me on Facebook. Honestly, I hadn't even noticed that she deleted me. I simply asked her if her eyes were green and tried to end the convo. It's been several hours of nasty messages from her today, with my replies being an occasional "I'm sorry you're jealous. Have a good day."

The last message was a voicemail telling me how I'm so nasty and ugly that, even with weight loss, I'll need a pork chop around my neck to get any male attention.

I guess that sometimes you can't win, no matter what you do.

[PEvette 297]

The fallout keeps coming for me. My (almost) sister in law has been mad at me for over a month. Apparently when I invited my brother to the family reunion that was held in July, I didn't invite SIL and her kids separately. We live in FL and the reunion was held in KY. I assumed that my brother would invite her himself if he wanted her to go to the reunion with him. Turns out he didnt' come anyway, but she texted me a few days before the reunion to tell me how angry she was at me over my "not inviting" her to the reunion. After rolling my eyes, I told her what was stated above. She told me that I didn't have to be rude about it and I just said Oh Well to the whole deal, figuring it was neurotic crap.

Fast forward to tonight, over a month later, and she sent me another text message about how rude and nasty I am and how no one wants to read my WLS updates, or about my diet or exercise, so she's deleted me on Facebook. Honestly, I hadn't even noticed that she deleted me. I simply asked her if her eyes were green and tried to end the convo. It's been several hours of nasty messages from her today, with my replies being an occasional "I'm sorry you're jealous. Have a good day."

The last message was a voicemail telling me how I'm so nasty and ugly that, even with weight loss, I'll need a pork chop around my neck to get any male attention.

I guess that sometimes you can't win, no matter what you do.

WOW Weee, congrats on handling that!

[ShoeLover 141]

Wow Lissa, she sounds extremely immature also. What is it about us changing ourselves for our own betterment (is that a word?) that affects other people? Last I checked, I did this for me, not anyone else, so why do they act so ugly towards us about it, as though we did this to THEM or to piss them off.

[IMSKINNY 160]

People have no idea until they go through it.

Amen to that!

[Kiki Von Moonshine 53]

Wow Lissa, your SIL is a B**ch, point blank.

[Smoggy 152]

Wow Lissa' date=' your SIL is a B**ch, point blank.[/quote']

AGREED! With family like that, who needs enemies?

[Lissa 2,631]

Thanks, ladies! I was leaning towards thinking she is immature and bi*#$y, but she's the second defector in the last few months. Isn't it strange that they get insecure and act dumb, yet I'm the one who is mean, nasty and stupid. @@ It's good to know I'm not the only one who thinks this petty stuff is just dumb.

I'm seeing signs that one more "good friend" is going to follow this same pattern and I've tried to head it off at the pass. We'll see if it helps. If not, I'll be working out alone. My workout partner, who has not had WLS, is constantly making comments about how she's having to "work harder for (her) goals" because I have had WLS.

As far as I can tell, I sweat just as much on the elliptical as she does and I spend as much, or more, time in the gym than she does. My only advantage is that I'm able to turn down second helpings of things much easier than she can.

I need a workout partner who has had WLS!

[Kiki Von Moonshine 53]

Besides finding a workout partner that has had weightloss surgery you need true people on your side that won't hate on you or have anything negative to say.

[lovelyladynhouston 26]

KiKi, I will be having my surgery on the 30th also. Good luck!

[drucella22 31]

I have 2 friends from high school. We are 55 yrs. old. We just go to eat together oh every couple of weeks and have vacationed together. I told them I was thinking of being sleeved and said to them that they probably won't want hang out with me anymore once i have it done. Guess what they said? NOTHING! They just looked at each other as if they already discussed it and said nothing. I was very disappointed to say the least. They are also heavy and want nothing to do with this at all for themselves. I'm just sorry and know what will happen. I know this will be the best for me. Just wish I could get my family gun Ho about this. Got to do this for me!

[MrzSongbird 53]

Wow, I'm sure hoping this is not after I'm sleeved, wishful thinking huh! All the best to you all.

[littlebits 154]

I hope that you won't experience it as well, Song bird. It's sad, but it's not our fault.

Littlebits