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Would U cheat with a dream/ideal partner if it was 100% sure no one would ever know?  

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  1. 1. Would U cheat with a dream/ideal partner if it was 100% sure no one would ever know?

    • Yes, If I met someone that I was attracted to in all ways, that was like a fantasy lover, and I was 100% certain that no one would ever find about about it, no one could be hurt by it, it would remain completely hidden, yes, I would cheat.
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    • No, it didn't matter how attracted I was, or that no one would know. I could never and would never cheat.
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    • I don't know, I honestly am not sure how I would react in that situation. Either because it's too unknown or too hypothetical.
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Never, never, never. In my personal view, cheating would be pure selfishness and would clearly speak to my own personal integrity. Integrity shows in all aspects of life. Have I been selfish in my marriage, you bet I have. Not on the level of cheating. I'm talking about not fixing supper or not cleaning the house.

Do we share fantasies? Yes, it's healthy in my opinion and we keep it within our own walls. Like I have said b4, my DH is the air I breath.....without him, the life would be sucked out of me. BTW, I don't understand how this happens, but I love him more today than I did yesterday. Gosh, I LOVE that man and I'm the luckiest woman on the face of the earth!!!

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Don't think I could do it. Now my subconscience has cheated every once in a while in dreams... Orlando, Johnny, and Jackie Chan... Oh my!!! But in real life my dear hubby is all I want or need.

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I could never cheat on my DH.I love him too much. My ex husband cheated on me and the pain caused me to cheat on him several times. Our relationship suffered because I was never happy and had the continuous feeling of wanting to cheat on him for revenge. Not to mention the loss of trust we had for eachother. It was a mess. I love my bunny and I'm not even attracted to any one else. As for the ex husband, he's remarried and happy. As far as I know he hasn't cheated on his new wife. I think he learned his lesson the first time around. He saw how evil we women can get when we're scorned.lol.

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I definitely hear where most everyone is coming from. I was curious about this from the other thread when someone had posted that they thought maybe the percentage of cheaters was lower because people with obesity may have simply had fewer opportunities to cheat than people without weight issues. I tend to believe myself that the opportunity is there for everyone, regardless of size.

I so relate to the concept of 'but I would know'. On a personal level, I have a really hard time with any kind of dishonesty from myself. I'm much more forgiving of other people who have lied or been dishonest to me in my life, but it's something I can't tolerate in my own behavior. I've never understood people who have the ability to lie well, or who lie compulsively. Even little lies I've made in my life, like calling in sick to work when I needed to take care of a friend in crisis, would eat me up for days.

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I definitely hear where most everyone is coming from. I was curious about this from the other thread when someone had posted that they thought maybe the percentage of cheaters was lower because people with obesity may have simply had fewer opportunities to cheat than people without weight issues. I tend to believe myself that the opportunity is there for everyone, regardless of size.

I agree. No matter what my size, I could find someone willing to sleep with me. Maybe not build a relationship, but for a night of fun there is always someone willing.

I've also seen situations where the mistress isn't nearly as attractive as the wife being cheated on.

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Nope me either. I love my family to much and I would never leave the one I love for the one I lust.

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I wouldn't cheat on my husband.......however if Johnny Depp wanted to take me out to dinner.....:faint:.

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Bad karma, I could not do it.

Although I do have a theory that if someone cheats and they want to stay in the realtionship then they should NEVER confess to the spouse. They should not bring the spouse down by telling them and making them feel bad and they shoul dhave to live with the private pain every day.:drama:

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I TOTALLY AGREE that SIZE DOES NOT MATTER! Im hit on DAILY online LOL and In person!:heh:

My dad says its cause of my porn star hair LOL dangit!:) But its been like this all my life ive got a self confidence that i guess attracts them..other than I'M HOT!!! LOLOLOL Just kidding...or am i? LOL:heh:

Just my 2 cents...

But IF you cheat...then there must be SOMETHING missing from your relationship and you need to get out of it and find whats missing and dont settle for less...:think

Its so nice to read how all of you have such awesome supportive Spouses! Pat yourselves on the backs! and Give them a big ole hug! Cause they are hard to find!:clap2:

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If it was with someone that I really wanted, or one of those few truly perfect famous people that I lust after so much, it wouldn't be cheating, since cheating involves not telling the other person...I could not keep it from my husband. I would be bragging too much. LOL "woohoo!!! Guess who I just got it on with!!"

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I have permission from hubby to be with Vince Vaugh!

cool, but what did you have to promise hubby in return?......ha ha ha!

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If it was with someone that I really wanted, or one of those few truly perfect famous people that I lust after so much, it wouldn't be cheating, since cheating involves not telling the other person...I could not keep it from my husband. I would be bragging too much. LOL "woohoo!!! Guess who I just got it on with!!"

That makes total sense!! :bananapartyhat:

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