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Would U cheat with a dream/ideal partner if it was 100% sure no one would ever know?  

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  1. 1. Would U cheat with a dream/ideal partner if it was 100% sure no one would ever know?

    • Yes, If I met someone that I was attracted to in all ways, that was like a fantasy lover, and I was 100% certain that no one would ever find about about it, no one could be hurt by it, it would remain completely hidden, yes, I would cheat.
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    • No, it didn't matter how attracted I was, or that no one would know. I could never and would never cheat.
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    • I don't know, I honestly am not sure how I would react in that situation. Either because it's too unknown or too hypothetical.
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Remember, these are totally anonymous, no one can tell what you reply. The other thread made me curious...

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Although it might be fun to have my way with Jesse James from West Coast Choppers, I don't think I could live with myself everytime I looked at my DH.

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I'm just not that in to getting my jollies for it to be worth the self-disparagement later on. Geting caught is not the only risk, by far.

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For me, it is not about what would be fun for me. I think about the stability of the family, and what is important for my DD. IMHO, too many people think only of themselves, and disregard the effects these decisions have on the children.

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Couldn't do it. I enjoy a mellow conscience.

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Although it might be fun to have my way with Jesse James from West Coast Choppers, I don't think I could live with myself everytime I looked at my DH.

That, and Sandra Bullock would whip your butt.....LOL!!!

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I'm just not that in to getting my jollies for it to be worth the self-disparagement later on. Geting caught is not the only risk, by far.

Bingo. I would still know.

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That, and Sandra Bullock would whip your butt.....LOL!!!

Bettina,

That's just special effects on Speed and Ms. Conginiality! hahaha

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There would be no way...You would have to deal with the after affects of knowing that you did it for years to come and look in the face of your spouce and children everyday knowing that you have done the unthinkable...In the beginning someone might think that it wouldnt bother them in the least but it would forever eat at their SOUL...lol:cry :target: :angel: :)

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My thoughts on me...

I can in all honestly say that I would never EVER cheat on my husband. I cheated on my first husband (I got married at 21 and was only married for 3 yrs...but no...that is not why the marriage ended) and I also cheated in several other relationships after that.

That is why, for me, I can in all honesty say that I will never do it on Mr. Yoda. Why? because for the first time ever, I am complete and I don't even have the desire to be with another man....let alone the thoughts (whereas I used to before Mr Yoda came along). That is because Mr. Yoda is so obviously the "one" for me and so the desire is not there. Even more importantly, (again, unlike my past) I would never ever ever ever ever do ANYTHING to consciously hurt Mr. Yoda; I would never be able to live with myself or with the hurt I would have caused him.

Really though, that is one of the reasons I know that I am, in fact, with my soulmate...well...that and that our toes fit together perfectly like keys!

:)

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Bettina,

That's just special effects on Speed and Ms. Conginiality! hahaha

Ya know, if I had my eyes set on Jesse James, my hubby would be like go for it..........but I know it would only be if we could swap--Sandra Bullock for him would have to be the agreement............LOL:D

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If I met someone outside the marriage who I imagined was my dream-partner, kindred spirit or other I would contemplate divorce. How sure can you be that a new spouse will be better than one already "broken-in"? There will still be inside-out crusty socks, toothpaste to clean off the mirror, and the occasional day of loathing.

If I saw this dream lover as an option only for physical pleasure I would question my own selfish motives and work harder on my marriage! I am proud to say that I have never cheated in relationship. Once I slept with someone I later found out was married...oops...I suppose that is cheating, isn't it?

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