Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

When Can We Have Sex Again?



Recommended Posts

Will be 3 weeks post op this Friday and see my Dr on Wednesday but too embarassed to ask him, so when are we allowed to have sex again? Not in a hurry to do so (could use the rest), just wondering.rolleyes.gif

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

IN THE PAPER WORK THEY SENT HOME FROM THE HOSPITAL SAID "YOU MAY RESUME SEXUAL ACTIVITY WHEN YOU FEEL PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY STABLE."

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Never, EVER be embarrassed to ask a doctor ANYTHING. They've heard, seen, thought of anything and more that you could possibly ask them. Wouldn't it be MORE embarrassing for the doctor to think you DON'T have sex with your significant other???

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

This was a tough one for me to ask too, but I agree with Circa, don't hold back on the questions for the doctor. I'm sure it's pretty routine for them :-) I was told that I could resume activities when I felt ready.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Sex? What is that??? : ) From my experience, this is usually exercise for me. So I just went with the my doctor's recommendation on when I could return to "physical activity" and exercise. Same approach, maybe ease into it and build up from there.......

weight.png

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Whenever the mood strikes you. I say go for it!!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The general answer from most docs is whenever you feel ready for it. Most hospital nurses say that they prefer that you wait until you are home from the hospital. There may be some positions that you will want to avoid, and your body will tell you.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Ugg...my doc said wait until 30 days post op. Why on earth do they not want us to have sex? Are all of lifes pleasures to be denied for the time being? I understand why no strenuous exercise and such, because of risk of hernia, but I don't see how abdominal pressure can be increased from sex?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am glad you brought this up because I forgot to ask my doctor! My next appt is on Friday and I am sure as heck gonna ask! What's funny is my hubby and I were just talking about this yesterday! :)

I think the when you feel physically ready answer is appropriate. Just don't swing from the chandeliers and I think you will be ok! ;)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

If you're wondering, then you are ready. Just hold off on the trapeez act.

I believe it was 3 days, here.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Dont ever be embarrassed to ask, just make sure you don't embarrasse yourself when asking. My husband went with me to my last pre-op appt with the doctor and as I was going thru my list of questions I would look the doc in the eye/face when I addressed him with a question. Well, when I got to that question it just came out of my mouth " when can we have sex?" you could have heard a pin drop and then it clicked in my brain what/how I asked the question, so then I had to clarify that I meant sex with my husband and not the doctor. My poor husband was beet red, but they were both good sports about it. Talk about feeling stupid, sometimes it's just a train wreck when you open your mouth. lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

OMG! That is hillarious. Thanks for sharing that!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thanks for the responses, guys. And for the laughs. I asked today (a little bit more discreetly than Knee2010 laugh.png ) and he said it would be fine now at 3 weeks this Friday. Surprisingly, he also okayed Decaf coffee for me, although his nutritionist had said not until 2 months later. He said I could have caffeine at 6 months.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I waited 4 days after I came home just to be safe, it felt good laying doing w/o having to do anything and having my significant other take the load hahahaha Banane56.gif

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

    • Jenopolis

      Had a sleeve in 2017, lost over 100 pounds. Had a DS surgery this year (2025) for more sustainable weight loss. 🤞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      The 14th was my day. I am home and recovery is going pretty smooth. They even let me walk out of the hospital. Picture of me in recovery curtesy of my boyfriend lol. 

      · 3 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Glad it went well!! Wishing you a speedy recovery and wonderful success!! 🤗

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

      3. Selina333

        Neat you have a pic of this day! I was sooo happy to get my surgery. It was well worth it! And I'm not even near my goal. I had surgery Dec. 2!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×