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So, ive decided that its time to start dating. I'm so nervous though, how do i explain the surgery and when is the right time? Also. any ideas for dates besides just eating? Please help! :)

amanda

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I have started dating too. :-) anyone worth dating will not judge you. I ended up telling my date before we met. (it was a fix up) and we are on date #5. I will admit it is a little odd to eat a few bites of my meal but he didn't care! And if your date cares move on to the next guy! If you don't want to tell someone up front that's ok too. You can meet for a drink and nurse a glass of wine for hours.

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No reason to tell or not, it should not affect how someone sees you. As for non eating dates: movies, bowling, skiing, dancing, just go out for a scoop of ice cream or cup of coffee, basketball game, drive in the country, visit the wineries.

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I just started dating. One of my motivations to have this surgery was to be able to do more with my ex. He threw me a curve by breaking up with me a few months after the surgery, telling me he was waiting for the "right time". He was serious.

Basically, I've only gone out with a couple of guys but neither of them cared. Frankly you will be amazed at how disinterested they are. It's not like you're telling them their fantasy NFL team was disbanded. : )

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There is a very active singles board on OH ( Obesity Help) We talk about that a lot.

I had WLS 5 years ago, so I have dated lots of guys. None of them cared. In fact, a lot of them said they know someone else who had WLS.

I am now living with my bf and the only thing he says once in awhile is that I sure don't eat much, but he's glad I am not fat!!

I have to say how nice it was to put my profile on the online dating sites and be able to check the box "average" instead of few extra lbs or BBW, and to not be afraid to post a picture!!

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