Hubby Is Being Rude....your Opinion Please

[Lisa821 29]

Thanks everyone! I do want to clear one thing up, I never mentioned a thing about his weight until he made the comment that my overeating was the cause of his. In fact, I gave nothing but compliments and encouragement. And since the comment, which was last February, I haven't said anything until yesterday when he brought it up again. So as I type this it becomes very clear to me that his attitude is definately an "unsettled" feeling inside him and has zero to do with me. My self esteem is just still healing, I guess.

[RRcubed 2]

Ok I feel like women in general make so many excuses for men! Men always get a pass because they are thought to be ignorant of their own emotions.

I think what he said was meant to be hurtful. Especially the "well you aren't thin" comment. He is definitely starting to feel insecure. But that doesn't excuse his words, especially if they were hurtful to you. You aren't the problem with his weight and you never were.

[longer-life 139]

I haven't said anything until yesterday when he brought it up again.

On your first post you said "I brought it up and asked if he still believes in his earlier hypothesis"

Either way, you are not responsible for his weight issues, but I do think it will all stop and he might lose weight if you don't mention it again or fall for his bait.

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

Your husband feel threatened by your weight loss and is totally scared of the shift in the status quo. You are taking care of yourself and looking better everyday. He is struggling with his weight and has difficulty taking responsibility for his over eating. Who wants to look in the mirror and own his/her responsibility. If I were you, I would share with you hubby how hurtful his comments were to you. Use I language like: When you said this, I felt___________. Please help me by being more supportive and I want to be more supportive too you. Happy New Year! Hope this helps. HUGS TO BOTH YOU AND YOUR HUBBY! You are a survivor as we all are.