If You Are Having Little Or No Losses Right Now...

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,282]

Good morning VST!! I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas, and if you were anything like me, the pounds did NOT creep up this time! Yayyy!! LOL

I wanted to touch on one subject, as I've seen a huge amount of posts lately commenting on their stalls, or slow losses. I feel this is an important subject because it can really get into our heads. Firstly you are not alone, and I myself have felt this too. Though here's what kept me moving, and kept my head in the game so to speak.

In this journey the BEST ASSETS you will have are #1 Patience, #2 Positivity and #3 Perseverence. The 3 P's!!! These three virtues are a MUST in this journey.

Patience: All good things come to those who wait. You didn't gain 100+ Lbs overnight and you're not going to lose it that way either. You likely gained it over many years worth of time, so think of it like this - you will still lose that weight in the fraction of the amount of time it took you to gain it. No matter how "slow" you think your losses are happening it is still GREATLY faster than your gain. You are still WAY ahead of the game, no matter how you slice it.

Positivity: This is going to be a very rough journey. You're not always going to enjoy all the effects of your weight loss surgery. But regardless you will have to keep your outlook bright! If you have to, keep a list of all the things pre-surgery that you are looking forward to. Check them off as they happen, keep it around close when you just need that extra lift of motivation. Looking back is just as important as looking forward on this road to wellness. Speaking of looking forward... check out the Success Stories Forum. Look for Sleevers who are no less than one year post op. Check their befores and afters. YOU WILL BE AMAZED!! Trust me, we didn't lose overnight either. Also, taking before and after photos are super helpful as is taking monthly or bi weekly measurements. The scale is rarely going to say what you really want it to. If it does every time, that's great! Consider yourself lucky!!

Perseverence: You know the saying, when the going gets tough... the tough gets going. You will find this is true in this journey. Again I say, nothing about WLS is easy! We may think of it a miracle, a cure from obesity and in some ways it really is. I thank GOD daily for it and having the means to have mine, BUT I do also know being that I'm 15+ months out and having hit so many goals I've lost count that it is STILL a lot of hard work!! You will find that to truly become healthy you're going to have to find some kind of physical activity that you can both handle without injury and keep to some type of good eating regimen. Call it diet or choose not too, doesn't matter. You're not going to hit your goals in any kind of healthy way by eating all your calories on M&M's... know what I mean?

However some things I refused to ever do was to give up, give in or beat myself up for being what in the real world is called being human. I have eaten M&M's and by golly I sure don't regret it! I still hit all my goals and had a little bit of fun along the way. You just have to make all the right choices, but at the right times too.

That's all I have to say about that... I do hope this helps - and as we are in the middle of Winter where its way too cold for outside activities (at least for me it is!) and all the best eating is all around us, that we can just keep up the hard work that goes into getting to the finish line. If you maintain all three P's, you WILL GET THERE. For sure.

[Happy Camper 266]

Nicely said Irene.

I would like to add, I have been on this site for almost a year, and recently have seen folks getting negative. Please come back around and let's share positive and uplifting messages. If you feel aggravated over something perhaps, you could leave the postiing so you are not compelled to post therefore expanding on the message. Most of us have lived in negativity while we were overweight, let's continue to make this a positive place.

Here is to a Happy New Year in 2012!

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,282]

I totally agree Sandy! Take the time to "smell the roses" as you trot along the path to your destination. I don't know how better way to put it.

You have choice, go along enjoying the ride or choose to beat yourself up... haven't we done enough of that? I know I'd had, and I wasn't going to do that to myself anymore. If I couldn't love and respect me, how or why would I expect anyone else to love and respect me? Just isn't fair, IMO.

Be fair to ourselves... that's all I'm saying!!

[blackanese25 160]

I always like reading your posts diva.. you really know how to get a message across.. lol and i think that just seeing your outlook on vsg is an inspiration. I know im only 2 weeks out, but some of the things that you say hit home before i ever get a chance to complain about them. lol.

Rock on!

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Keep up the great work, Sexy Girl

[LilMissDiva Irene 3,282]

I'm glad I could help even if only one person blackanese!