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Surgery Date Set and Felling Apathetic



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Well my surgery is set - has been for over a month now - I have gone through a serious of emotions from nervous to excited. Now I feel apathetic about the entire processes. My surgery is still a month away. I am doing all the expected things. Making sure I have all my duckes in a row. But, still nothing. What's wrong with me. I want this, I need this! Why am I not feeling more about it. Will the excitment come back as I get closer? Will the apathey continue to the surgery date? Is this good or bad?

Not a lot ruffles my feathers, so maybe this is the norm for me.

Any way, I would be interested if anyone else has felt this way in their journey. Thanks

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absolutley you are feeling what all of us have felt. I forgot about the apathetic phase. Youll get the excitement back and the butterflies then the thoughts of am I nuts!

I can tell you I am 10 months out almost to the day, and I am so thrilled I can't stand it. The changes in your life are going to be just wonderful. Weather your a fast loser or a slow loser the fact that you are taking your life in your hand, your health in your hands is a wonderful thing which NO ONE can take away.

Congratulations on making a life changing desision.

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I am with you on the feelings. My surgery is set for the 28th of August and I am very nervous, as well as apathetic. My prayers are with you.

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I can't tell you when the apathy ends, because I'm still there too. My date is set for Aug. 4. I'm stocking up on clear & full liquids, picking out a comfy outfit to wear home, finding mushy foods, etc. But I'm still just kinda "ehh" about the whole thing. :rolleyes

I'm hoping to get excited soon, and I hope you do too. Good Luck.:confused:

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Apathetic, aprehensive, anxious, annoyed...I could go on and on. I am almost 8 weeks and I still have some of those feels. The thing that gets me through is that I tell 'me' that I deserve to look better, feel better and to be a better person. We all have baggage that makes us feel afraid of the unknown. food was my comfort and my 'armour' from unwanted attention. Since the procedure I feel and acknowledge that I can be beautiful & sexy (did I say that?) while being myself and the best self I can be. So Yes, you will feel better and you will be a better person for taking control and starting to live the life that you always wanted.

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Thank You all for the replies - I will sleep a little better tonight. It is nice to know that I am not alone out here in what I am going through. I look forward to hearing from you and being inspired by you all.

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Hi there -- Just wanted to let you know that I'm there too! I thought it was just me, so I'm thrilled you posted this ... at least as thrilled as an apathetic woman can be ;-). I'm so relieved to see others have felt that way too. I think part of my apathy is the feeling that I've been down similar roads before with no success, you know? Every diet or program I tried got me all excited that 'This is it!!', and then I failed. Maybe I'm just tired of getting all excited, and am trying to protect myself. Not sure. But I'm looking forward to being on the other side, that's for sure.

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I'm pre-band and it's good to know that the mental roller coaster ride is normal.

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I think it's perfectly normal... I know I even played the game of "maybe I could go on a diet and do it myself". I really played head games with myself the week before my surgery so get set for a little of that! Just hang in there!!!

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