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As you can see, we are a very supportive group! All of us have been there. we've been scared and felt alone too. . .don't worry, your going to be ok. . the only one troubling thing is your constent thought about food. Have you looked into getting a couselor or going to therapy for that? Food addiction is a tough one cause we all need food to live. . . but now the mind set has to be that we now eat to live and not live to eat. . . you mentioned your a bit of a control freak, well, control your hunger now. I do that too every day, I am a control freak big time and have to be perfect in most everything i do. . i had my surgery 2 years ago and now I am the one in control of what goes into my mouth and thoughts into my head, not my stomach and not my brain. . . it's really tough changing that part. But we are here for you, so know that you do have cyber friends here and we are here to help! Good luck!

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I am only 3 weeks post-op, so I am right there in it with you. It sounds like you have a great supportive husband, so let him support you! He probably feels a lack of control with your situation (as husbands do) and letting him care for you and your kids will make him feel better while you rest and get better too. The dishes and laundry can wait- you need to take care of you for the time being.

Being on liquids for 4 weeks will make you hungry and even agitated about the things you can't eat. I just graduated to pureed and am feeling so much more satisfied. I still LOVE food. I will love food whether I am fat or thin, sleeved or not, but now I can cook, watch cooking shows and not feel sad or angry. I can cook a great dinner for my kids and be excited for them without being sad for me. It is a transition- don't be discouraged- talk to others, share your story and listen to theirs. You will be feeling better in no time.

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