Overlooked -

[giveyouthemoon 4]

I get SOOO frustrated because every person feels insecurity. Even the tiny thin little girls feel it. So if we ALL get down on ourselves...why are we so mean to each other? I have never understood this human condition. Bugs me.

As a big girl still, I see what you mean about being overlooked. It was real bad 100lbs ago.

I've often wondered if it wasn't about how a heavy person carries themselves? I know when I was damn near 300 lbs, I looked down, felt uncomfortable and wouldn't look people in the eyes because I was ashamed. As I've been losing weight I hold my head high and look people square in the eye now. I mean, I'm still the better part of 200 lbs but I FEEL good so I get treated better.

I think it's both how people view obese people. But it's also about how obese people view themselves.

I know that whatever mental tapes run in your head help shape your reality.

["Just" Paul 1]

I find that men will blurt things out but women will stare you up and down, whisper to each other and give you nasty looks. I honestly don't know which is worse since I've been judged by both sides. Either way, it hurts. People will never learn until they have walked in your shoes......... to bad.

btw, I worked in a cadillac dealership for 5 years, all men, 3 women...... never cussed so much in my life ROFL !

Used to sell Mitsubishi's, then Ford's. I know exactly what you are talking about. Also, never drank so much, Beers or martinis at lunch, drinks after work. Long days, hard partying.

Boy, I could tell you a couple stories, but some of them would need to be on the XXX thread.

["Just" Paul 1]

I find that men will blurt things out but women will stare you up and down, whisper to each other and give you nasty looks. I honestly don't know which is worse since I've been judged by both sides. Either way, it hurts. People will never learn until they have walked in your shoes......... to bad.

btw, I worked in a cadillac dealership for 5 years, all men, 3 women...... never cussed so much in my life ROFL !

very true.

[gentlespirit 1]

CIndy~

Thanks for sharing your poem. You put to words what most of us women have felt at one time or another. It's beautiful.

Emily