Why The Concern All Of A Sudden?

[AnewMe@28 38]

Okay, tell me why people are concerned all of a sudden, with how small I am getting and how much weight I have or plan to lose? Where was all that concern when I was tipping the scales at 298lbs.? That is when someone should have pulled me aside, citing concern for my health. And where I am weight wise I am by no means a "scare crow."

Telling me, men like a woman with a little meat on her bones is not going to con me into not losing anymore weight. Besides my husband, who is the only man that matters in my world, likes to pick his wife up and carry her off whenever he wants.

Pssss, and I will tell you a secret, I like that he can do that whenever he wants too. LOL!!!!!!

Have a great day sleeve family. Enjoy your successes and let the non-sense just roll off your back.

[thinoneday 445]

Yup, and I absolutely hate it when i'm eating something and someone says "are you allowed that?" or if someone sees me with my tiny dish of food, "Don't eat too much". . . errrrrrrrr i just want to slap them, but instead, I tell them "Well I've come this far without taking any advise from you" then I just laugh and walk off with my bowl. . . people can be soooooo ignorant. . . the other thing i totally hate is women trying to compete with me for whatever reason. . . get over it b00tch00s I already KNOW i'm better looking! hehehe

[Pookeyism 1,143]

LOL. I love your post.

I think there are a few people who I will let pass on asking me questions on my food choices, just because they have been strong advocates in my struggle so far.

One a side note - thinoneday - I love your bunny tracker! AND I love that it says you have passed your goal!

[Rootman 1,101]

I don't know how many times I've gotten the question asked in a weird leery voice "Are you feeling alright?", which apparently is code-speak for "Do you have cancer or something?".

I do for the most part appreciate the comments but dang, just come out and ask wouldja'! NO, I'm not sick just lost weight!

[goldenraisin214 142]

Funny, because had you always been the size you are now, no one would've come up to you asking if you were "feeling okay," or asking/telling you not to lose weight. It's like seeing the transformation has given them the right to be in your personal business. Stick and move, guys, stick and move!

[Purdy in Pink 57]

lmao....I lovethis topic.

I get the "you're melting away right before our eyes" all the time. and EVERYONE wants to know how I lost all the weight.

I live in a small town where there are no secrets...if one person knows...the whole town knows...lol. so, I don't even lie about it, I just tell them I had weight loss surgery. (and give them the details if they ask.....they most all do ask..) Which then they all say...but you wer'nt that big........in which i reply...well, losing 70 lbs was 'BIG" to me.....

I feel lucky tho...I have never had anyone say a negative thing to me about what I did.....everyone has been so posative and encouraging. (unless it's all said behind my back, ....lol)

Keep up the great work everyone!

Donna

[sleeve 4 me 910]

Amen! Love it

[Chris S 7]

Here's what I enjoy. I recently started a new job and a group of us went out to lunch. We went to the local McDonald's and everyone was ordering their biggie meals. I ordered off the $1 menu and got a McDouble, a small fry and a bottle of Water. As we sat to year, I pulled the top bun off and started eating the burger. After a few minutes, one of the group asked the inevitable question and I answered that I had weight loss surgery and don't eat a lot at each meal and concentrate on the Protein. That started the "My (so and so) had that done and you've got to be careful because they gained all of their weight back" BS. IT amazes me how everyone knows someone that wasn't successful and yet they lump me in with that.

People would so rather have a sense of moral superiority than they need to possess.

[Lissa 2,631]

I finally had someone question me on "can you eat that?" yesterday. I ate half of a small brownie that someone made at work, maybe one bite, and one of the salespeople asked me if I was "allowed" to eat that! LOL I explained to her that I am "allowed" to eat anything I want to eat, just not in large quantities. Privately I was thinking that I have barely hit 700 calories in weeks, so that one bite of brownie wasn't going to "blow" my calorie allowance, and I was right.

As for other women competing, I SO get that. One of my good friends is under five feet tall and normally weighs about 110-115. She's now on a "diet" and has lost 7 pounds or so. She tells me that her 7 pounds is "like" me losing 50 pounds, it's so hard! While I admire that she's trying to keep her weight where she wants it, it seems silly to me that she went on this diet at the same time I had surgery. She's also enrolled in a kick boxing class and has taken up jogging with her two daughters. I keep reminding myself that being healthier won't hurt her, but I hate the underlying competition I hear when she talks about this new lifestyle she's started.

Oh well, I suppose I should just be happy that I've inspired her to get her health back on track.

[itscometothis 12]

This is a great thread. These are just a few of the reasons I chose not to tell everyone. The constant attention on what I eat would make me crazy! And the only people who seem to be, "concerned" about my weight loss are my friends who are overweight. They never mentioned they had concerns when I was tipping the scales at 200 but now that I have lost weight they want to make sure I'm doing this in a healthy way. I just smile and say that I am happy and healthy

[Chicadee 10]

I had a girl at work last week come up to me and say "OMG you are getting so tiny!!" I said thanks, but I was thinking, really? I still weigh 276 pounds for God's sake, not tiny by any means. That coming from a girl who probably weighs maybe 150.

[AnewMe@28 38]

Thanks you guys for the responses, let's me know I am not alone with what is going on in my post-op world.

[mullet head 18]

Sooooo true....especially when you get the "thin" or "skinny" comments and you know you still have 40+ to meet your goal!!

Makes me think how am I gonna look...

I just look fwd to the day when i can "blend in" again!!!

[exoticheart 5]

Yup, and I absolutely hate it when i'm eating something and someone says "are you allowed that?" or if someone sees me with my tiny dish of food, "Don't eat too much". . . errrrrrrrr i just want to slap them, but instead, I tell them "Well I've come this far without taking any advise from you" then I just laugh and walk off with my bowl. . . people can be soooooo ignorant. . . the other thing i totally hate is women trying to compete with me for whatever reason. . . get over it b00tch00s I already KNOW i'm better looking! hehehe

Ok that is that funniest s***........"Ive come this far without taking any advice from you" that is genius and I will quote you whenever I can.....my side hurts from laughing picturing you saying that and walking away with bowl in hand....lol thank you , you made my day

[Puja 148]

First off, I hate it when these skinny girls complain about being fat.

Second, it pisses me off when girls say "I wish I could get the surgery. It would make my life so much easier!"

Since when did surgery or the work afterwards become easy? Granted, losing weight is easier now than it ever was in the past. That, however, is relatively speaking. We still have to maintain our diets, our discipline, and our sanity. Goodness!