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Miscarried. And Heartbroken :-( How To Get Back On Track?



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Hello all,

I am 9 months out from sleeve surgery and lost 100lbs in the forst 6 months. I still had/have (now) 45lbs to lose to hit my goal of 130lbs. Last month I found out I was pregnant. Yay! Very happy and just planned to lose it all after the baby. Well, no such luck. I miscarried last week and am so very,very heartbroken. But I don't want to wallow in self pity. I want to get back on the diet wagon and lose the rest of this weight!

I want to lose this 40-45lbs, stop smoking, and get HEALTHY.Basically become the BEST i can possibly be so that I can try to conceive again in the near future. Problem is that I feel like I don't know how.

How do I start again? Clears? Pouch test?Protein shakes? How many calories should I be having now?

I feel like I've really lost my bearings. Can someone PLEASE PLEASE, give me some advice as how to start again? I'm a person that really needs structure in a diet. This is more important than EVER to me now. I just need a little help. Thank you,

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Start by making sure you are eating enough Protein and veggies. Pregnancy and miscarriage is hard on a body and soul. Take care of yourself first and foremost. <hugs>

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I am so sorry for your loss - I know what it is like to suffer a miscarriage, and I would personally say give your body just a little time to settle before you start to ramp things up again.

Once you feel ready to I'd say go back to shakes for a few days, it usually makes me feel re-focussed, and then you can build it up from there.

Take good care of yourself.

((((HUGS))))

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Miters,

I am truely sorry that you have suffered this loss. It is such a painful time to go through. I agree that shakes would be a great way to start back on the right track. When I was losing I was on a 600 calorie a day and 30 grams of carbs. I would give yourself some food. I realize some can't lose on this small amount of calories so you need to remember where you settled at.

Blessings,

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Hello all,

I am 9 months out from sleeve surgery and lost 100lbs in the forst 6 months. I still had/have (now) 45lbs to lose to hit my goal of 130lbs. Last month I found out I was pregnant. Yay! Very happy and just planned to lose it all after the baby. Well, no such luck. I miscarried last week and am so very,very heartbroken. But I don't want to wallow in self pity. I want to get back on the diet wagon and lose the rest of this weight!

I want to lose this 40-45lbs, stop smoking, and get HEALTHY.Basically become the BEST i can possibly be so that I can try to conceive again in the near future. Problem is that I feel like I don't know how.

How do I start again? Clears? Pouch test?Protein shakes? How many calories should I be having now?

I feel like I've really lost my bearings. Can someone PLEASE PLEASE, give me some advice as how to start again? I'm a person that really needs structure in a diet. This is more important than EVER to me now. I just need a little help. Thank you,

First off let me say I'm sorry for your loss. Second, you sound like an amazingly strong woman! I think you have a great attitude and I wish you the best of luck! hug.gif

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Sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear about the miscarriage :( You have done a very good job of losing your weight, I have no doubt that you will reach your goals. Protein first, between 80+ grams a day, plus getting all your fluids in. A lot of people restrict carbs, some say under 30. Some can have more and still lose. I would play around with that to see what works for you. Tracking with myfitnesspal helps to keep track of all this. Good luck, and honestly, you've done so well, I think you should be giving me advise. :)

Hugs!

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OH I am so so sorry to hear of your loss!!! :(

I agree with others it might be ok just to give yourself a little bit of time to grieve. That said, you have to do what you feel is right for you.

Here is what I did when I needed to get back on track: 5 days of lean Proteins, consisting of poultry, fish, eggs, and seafood. With those meals I would have green veggies. For Snacks I would have dairies (light or greek yogurt, string or regular cheese, SF chocolate milk, etc) or nuts such as almonds or peanuts. I would also have Peanut Butter - but that's pretty much it. I'm very strict those 5 days, which its not that hard since I always tell myself its only 5 days.

Once that's over and my cravings are gone, I just go straight back into the sleever eating rules which is Protein first then a few bites of veggies and if I have anymore room a few bites of complex carbs.

Wishing you well.

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(((Miters))) I'm so sorry for your loss! You have done an amazing job with your weight loss and it shows. For now, just concentrate on your basics and on healing the mental and physical aches. Once those are somewhat better, then you can concentrate on your weight loss.

I know you'll never get over it, and I share your pain. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way.

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I had miscarried before, I am sure you can DO this, Im here for you if you need to vent or talk,send me a message,would love to read from you,Sorry for your loss,big hug!!!

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See if there is someone in your area that you can talk to like a miscarriage support group or some sort of mental health worker. It might help to talk to a professional about all of the emotions you are experiencing right now.

Sorry for your loss. Keep working on becoming healthy both physically and mentally and reach out for support!

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